So he wasn't cheating on you then unless you were dating for those 4 years before marriage. But why wait so long? And wouldn't you notice the child support money by now in the budget??

And that’s a bad thing?

Well, at least he didn't admit to having a 2-yr-old child that you heretofore knew nothing about. However, not trusting you upfront from day one with the news of him already being a father doesn't bode well though.

I see, but the real question is: Are you sure you're not the mother? Hmmmm?

I wonder if he had to tell you now before he got hit with child support.

For every idiot saying “so what”: HE NEVER TOLD HER HE HAD A CHILD. They are married, been together for years, and he never told her. You’d be ok with your spouse keeping their children a secret from you? That’s messed up.

Time to leave. Not because of the son, because of the lie. If he's willing and able to disregard his son and hide his existence, then either his son doesn't matter to him or you don't. Either way, you don't need a man like that fathering your children.

plot twist: the child is actually yours

Not good, but it could be worse. He could have been your husband of eight years telling you he has a four year old son.

She doesn’t actually say when he found out. It could have been recent if the mother didn’t tell him and now needs support