I agree. It's really fucking sad that a lot of people in long-term relationships (and especially marriages) end up thinking their partner is only good for sex after being together for so long. No wonder people end up miserable- they treat the people they're supposed to love the most like absolute shit. If I was with someone, I'd take them out to dinner just so we can treat ourselves and have fun and if spoil them, honestly!

That's just being complacent. You can't expect them to sustain the romance for decades. It's a little difficult.

How is it difficult to be romantic at least every now and then??

#31 you absolutely can be romanic until the day you die. That is just an excuse.

My grandparents were known for holding hands and were romantic until the day my grandma died. Even when my grandma was very sick and my grandpa had to be a full time caretaker for her as her physical health deteriorated. I'm sure it's hard, especially at stressful times, but it's completely possible.

"Should of"? Really? Go to bed, No dinner for you.

I thought I was the only one thinking that.

Actually, no dick moved at all

He couldn't have been serious. There'd still be a point because that's what a period is. I'll excuse myself now.

Great advice.... You should be a marriage counselor....

that makes no fucking sense what if he had like a 16 inch cock?

#47 oh God that'd be awful

@5 That's a silly thing to say. You don't even know if they practice a religion.

Lol. I have always wondered if the "no sex" thing actually works. Or maybe I just don't care if I don't have sex every other day :p

You shouldn't use sex as a reward or withhold it as a punishment, but if you're pissed off at them then obviously don't feel like you have to have it anyways.

I don't know about you, but I'd prefer dessert.

OP shouldn't have to keep that a secret, her husband should want to spend quality time with her even if it doesn't lead to sex.