Your comment : wow thats f@cked up

Somebody's stepped outside of the marriage...please don't think that this is some random act of nature.

it's a possibility that one of u sat on a dirty toilet seat but the odds are someone is not telling the truth

BJ while you had a cold sore? Or maybe he ate you out while he had one?

Catching herpes is relatively easy. They are basically cold sores. So the correct term would be catching genital herpes. This is easy to catch too. So someone cheated, lied, or one of you had a cold sore, went down on the other and the next time you had sex, both of you were then infected with genital herpes. It's not rocket science and your doctor is really stupid for not thinking of any of the above ways of contracting it. At any rate, that must suck. I am really sorry. Herpes sucks.

that sucks. one of you is a liar.

divorce! yikes!

This one is easy. Ever in your entire life share a straw or kiss anyone else? You could have gotten herpes of the mouth which got transferred to the genitals through oral sex.

SOME1 HAS BEEN CHEATING DUUUUUUHHHHHH doesn't take a rocket scientist

The hands-down most likely thing is someone has got herpes from someone who was infected via sexual contact. It is perfectly possible to remain a virgin yet contract herpes from a prior partner by rubbing naked privates but not actually going on to have sex. Although it is possible to get a form of Herpes from cold sores, I believe that is a different viral strain and your doctor can do a test to tell you if this is the case. Just fyi, that would then mean it is most likely someone kissed someone with the virus active in the form of a cold sore on their mouth at some point, although it is possible to have caught it from a parent. Unless someone was not born in a hospital and didn't get checked out and get all the vaccines and such, I don't think it was caught at birth...unless op and her husband are at least older than 25 as 25 years ago, if you have active herpes, they would have done a c-section to prevent infection of the fetus at a hospital. I have read there is actually a small chance of contracting it during birth even if there are no active signs of the virus, but if mom was hospitalized for the birth, I'd assume they would have taken all measures to prevent that probably. As far as catching from a toilet seat goes, herpes is not a virus that lives outside the body very well. Unless someone sat on a toilet seat awfully fast after it was vacated by the infected person, not possible. If that seat cooled off half a degree, the virus is dead. We did an experiment in college that proved spread via toilet seat is next to impossible and unlikely in the extreme. Just an FYI.