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19, I'm pretty sure she meant that she couldn't recognise him cause his looks have changed. Doesn't matter what a creepy stalker looks like, you don't go there.

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If OP's boyfriend is not currently obsessive and has no malicious intent then I don't think the past is much of a problem. I have a feeling that OP's boyfriend didn't truly stalk her, or else the authorities/a restraining order would be involved. I dunno, justI think he deserves a second chance as long as his current behavior is normal.

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43, I had a guy who used to follow me home after school a few times (he didn't follow me quite to my house) and gave me love notes, I still consider that stalking but I didn't press charges, we were young and he just had a crush on me that he took a bit far. But if I found out I was dating him (I know his name but if I didn't) I don't know what I'd do because that would make me feel like he was stalking me without me for all these years. However, you're probably right, if he's not showing obsess

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I would think even hearing a similar or same name would trigger memories of the event, assuming she even knew his name to begin with. But if she didn't even know his name chances are he wasn't really stalking her. I would assume stalking victim would at least know the stalkers name, if for no reason other than to report or avoid them. But then again, I've never been stalked...that I know of...

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Oh please, stop being self-righteous. Every relationship first starts from physical attraction, whether you want to deny that fact or no.

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She wasn't even saying that he got better looking, she was saying she didn't recognise him. Anyway, even if he was good looking when he stalked her, why would she go for him?

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@69 - You know, because the reason for not dating him before was purely lack of physical attraction, not his potentially obsessive behavior that's quite common in STALKERS. Looks can take a drastic lateral change, you know.

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69-All I read is that OP didn't recognize him, not that she finds him any more or less attractive. There is nothing shallow about not recognizing a person-especially a 'stranger'-from the past. I swear some people need to work on their reading comprehension skills.

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Also, 65, I wanted you to know that I accidentally thumbed you up instead of down. Your comment also lacked intelligence. Most people meet out of two circumstances-common ground or physical attraction. So while not every relationship is initially based on looks, many are, and the rest are only developed over time from said common ground, whether it's school, work, friendship, etc. So to judge someone for pointing out that physical attraction just makes you seem ignorant.

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When I met my boyfriend it was instant attraction, and once we got to know each other I completely fell in love straight away. A relationship needs at least some physical attraction to work. But to judge someone purely on looks is very shallow.

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While I agree with most of you that physical attraction is what most people recognize/look for first, you can like someone off of their personality alone, and I know that with a lot of people the better the personality the better they start to look physically as well.

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Not every relationship or crush stems from being physically attracted to someone. I am asexual for instance. I can recognize when a person is good looking but I don't have any feelings passed the person looks good or feel like I want to have sex with that person. On the other hand, a person becomes way more attractive to me because of their personality than how good looking they are.

Score one for stalking! It's news like this that helps me to remember persistence pays off. I'm now convinced the girl I have locked in my basement WILL love me someday. Or else...

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#13, I keep telling you to get cable down here! The reception on the bunny ears is awful and it always makes me cranky. If I had a steady diet of "Seinfeld" and "Big Bang Theory" reruns, I could probably love anyone.

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I have some rope and tape left over from my last escapee, 14. You're more than welcome to borrow it.

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#61, oh, she gives me Internet. Whenever you see a perdix comment that gets buried, it's my captor logging in as me as pretending to be me.

It's always the awkward people that turn out to be great when you get to know them, even if it's without your knowledge.

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