By ManInTrouble - 16/03/2010 04:50 - United States
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well, I'd say someone did all the work for you and you get the reward. unless after a year and a half you aren't planning on marrying her. if that is the case, you should probably leave her since she is wanting more than you are willing to give. plenty of hot chicks in Cali, so I don't feel bad for you at all.
To many proposal fmls now, still better than the Mcdonalds one lol, on one side be happy someone dropped some dough to do that, you got a free proposal it of it; however, if you don't want to marry her you should have clearly talked to her about your feelings before she felt it was time. So I have to say "don't worry, be happy"or ydi too
this sounds slot like the infamous Yankee prankee video on YouTube. 2 guys were having a prank war which had gone on for some time. and so, while one guy was at a yankees game, the other guy had paid the announcers to put a proposal on the bill board at half time. she slapped him and dumped him after he said it wasn't him who put it on.
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So? Just get married then. I promise, your lifestyle won't change at all and you'll get just as much sex as you're getting now.
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seventen and i_heart_boobies, Bullshit! Much LESS sex after you get married! The woman has you by the balls once you're hitched and doesn't need to put out as much as when they were still trying to rope you. And baby-production sex is less fun than the hot, horny type. It can even get monotonous if it's on a schedule. And no completed blowjobs. Pro tip: Don't let the wife fatten you up after you get married and maybe even have kids.
Pshh, sometimes that's not true. There are women who generally love sex. And don't want babies. I'm sick of everyone telling me if I get married I won't want sex as much. Where is that logic? If you love it, you love it. If you love giving oral sex, that shouldn't change because of a ring either. Women really ruin everything for the ones who actually love sex... men think all women stop 'giving it up' after marriage. I've never 'given it up' either... I've always wanted. Sigh. This topic gets me heated. Haha.
Aeliz, the problem isn't necessarily that married women don't like sex, it's that they learn to use it as a weapon. I think it is pretty sick that a woman would use sex as a means to control her husband's behavior, but it is a sadly true fact of life. You really should have other ways to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable. My wife is a maniac when she is in the mood, but I have to be a "good boy" to get her in the mood and it is very easy to screw up and lose out. It's not a good way to live:(
I'm with Aeliz, I have been married for over a decade to my husband. I have never withheld anything. There are 2 people in the partnership and if people work together there is no reason both can't be happy. My husband is SAHD. I have a full time job and go to college. if I have to come home to needing to cook and clean I am going to be exhausted. There are many issues for after marriage: men stop helping their wife women feel less desired and more like an object life gets in the way the biggest one kids ruin the mood. People forget that it is a partnership and it is a 2 way street. If you don't work together it with crash and burn.
That is pretty ridiculous too, perdix. I don't think all women are like that. I would never do that. My boyfriend and I are pretty much married, live together, joint bank accounts, pets, the whole shpeal. Haha. I would never use sex as a weapon because first of all, I'd feel guilty doing that to someone I love, second of all because it would probably backfire, lol. I don't know, I don't think he'd ever give me a reason to have to use it as a weapon anyway. I think it's just my personality. Even if he has done something 'bad,' I still want to. I guess some women just need to know they have power over their men in some way. If only they knew they were really ruining their relationships. Sex should be fun, not leverage. I never expect anything in return for sex, I don't know. I am sorry that your wife does that, though. I think that's pretty vindictive.
Perdix, women absolutely DO use it as a weapon. I think I tried that once or twice when I was younger (like 19?) and my bf at the time (who was a virgin before I got to him) would respond with, "Ok. I went 19 years without it, I can go another 19." I gave up at that point. Even then, though, it was more of a joke than really being serious. I always seem to get paired up with the guys who don't love sex as much as me. IDGI. Also, I've had it used against ME by guys. For example: "Gosh! We don't have to do stuff EVERY TIME we're together!" or "I feel like you just expect me to be ready, and I don't like being pushed." The worst was with my ex-fiance, when he felt like teaching me a lesson (like he wanted me to go to the gym more times in a week) he would stop having sex with me, until I would finally ask about it, and then he'd say, "I'm just not attracted to you right now." I guess that last one was supposed to be motivation to work out more, lol. I think it sometimes takes a woman who has been on the other side to know that sex should never be used as a weapon. I just don't get the point of it. All it does is diminish the fun. Also, I suck at self-deprivation, so I don't think I will ever understand depriving myself to make some kind of point, lol. People who use sex as a weapon are jerks. I don't like it!
Did she order that shit? Scandalous hoe.