By jayswizzle89 - 29/07/2014 07:58 - Canada - Etobicoke
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I get that some people forget simple things like that, and I also get how hard it is to lose someone you love and how some of the sadness can easily turn to anger. When you're upset, its hard to think about how someone else is feeling. She probably wasn't able to think it was an honest mistake in the state she was in. Both people made simple mistakes that are really understandable. It happens, especially at times like those. That's why there's sometimes a lot of fighting that happens after funerals and weddings, or big events like that. I just hope the simple misunderstandings doesn't lead to a friendship ending.
"she reminded me I was at the funeral" could be read as meaning "she reminded me I HAD BEEN at the funeral", which seems a lot more likely to me. We don't know how old OP is, but she hadn't seen her friend since University - for all we know that was 10+ years ago, in which case it isn't entirely outrageous she briefly forgot a detail like that.
A multitude of reasons #2 -huffing glue. -eating wall cookies(read paint chips) -severe blunt force trauma to the head. -autoerotic asphyxiation gone wrong, a lot. -being an idiot. That's just a list I thought of real quick trying to figure out where OPs brain damage came from.
Pretty sure the funeral was in the past; reading it the other way seems just too ridiculous to actually happen unless OP has Alzheimer's. And they could have not seen each other for several decades for all we know, in which case momentarily forgetting a detail like that wouldn't be completely outrageous.
F your friends wife, that must of hurt. as for OP, happens to the best of us sometimes, sucks it happened at a funeral.
You might want to reread that post again, your response kinda doesn't fit with what happened. Here's a quick summary: OP talked to old friend. Old friend, who's a woman, lost her husband in the past. OP was at funeral of said husband. OP forgot and asked how the husband, who's dead, was doing. OP got slapped for being insensitive.
Well you could say sorry. Say you have bad long/short term memory & give her time.
I have an absolutely horrible memory! I forget names and birthdays of people I've known for a long time. I think some of this may be from a medication I was on but I'm not positive. Either way, I feel bad for OP, it's not like she did it on purpose and there could've been a lot of reasons why she forgot, like maybe she has been through a horrible year and sort of had tunnel vision because of it. It sucks it happened, but personally I think a slap is a little much. Again, not like she was trying to hurt her friend (who she hasn't seen in years might I add) on purpose. When you forget something important, like a name or birthday or something, you feel really horrible, awkward and embarrassed about it, no need for the friend to make the situation worse.
I'm sorry but how do you forget going to a funeral? You had to have seen her there. I don't say this often but YDI.
I'm not saying it wasn't bad but I've been to like 20 funerals, maybe OP has been to lots too. Plus there's also a possibility the OP hasn't seen or even talked to her friend in 20+ years. Just because I don't keep in touch with friends from high school doesn't mean I don't consider them friends. I feel like everyone's being a bit harsh to the OP. Again not saying it's not her fault but it's not like she did it on purpose and I bet she felt sick about it.
There's a possibility the death happened during university, or shortly after and OP forgot. There's also the possibility, as some have mentioned, that the OP never went to the funeral and it's the friend that has the bad memory or had mistaken her for someone else that was there. Definitely would like a follow up to this one!