By iprobablyhaveherpes - 20/10/2010 04:47 - Australia
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I guess you must have misunderstood when she said the arrrangement was "non-"exclusive!
I agree with 75, I'm fine with my girl going thru mine coz I have nothing to hide, just as long as she doesn't chNge anything then what's the problem? so what if it's private? she's my other half n I'd rather lose a bit of privacy for the sake of showing her I'm not hiding anything from her..
Ayame, I feel there would be other ways to find out if your partner is cheating. I'm not going to go through every boyfriends phone to find out if they are playing me, that would be silly. I also trust people until they give me a reason not to. It's like your telling me to investigate any partners phones for any sign of cheating.
I agree with Jennifra. Yes, Ayame01, privacy IS that important to me. Let me elaborate: When I was in highschool my parents ALWAYS looked through my email. They didn't like me doing the myspace thing so they hacked on it every day, forwarded my emails to their address, and took away my door when I wouldn't take down my myspace page. Now I know that's excessive, I now am very sensitive about my privacy. Flash forward. I have never EVER even TRIED cheating on any guy. But I have had 2 that have looked through every text message I have, checked every contact, and one of them even hacked onto my facebook and read all of my messages. Moral of the story: Quite frankly, if you "just casually" look through someone's phone without their permission, you have MEGA trust issues and really should work them out before embarking on a relationship. Because while this ex was a bitch, OP WILL ruin future relationships because he doesn't understand privacy boundaries. THE END
You seriously need to consider using better passwords, scan your PC for key loggers before logging onto stuff. Cause "hacking" your stuff as you call it is them guessing your horribly easy passwords. Don't answer security questions correctly, and use a R34LlYG00d password.
ouch. maybe you should dump her. looks pretty clear that she has other weekly hookups besides you. if you do though, don't mention the phone. otherwise, you'll be at fault and seem like the insensitive one to others.
I'm sorry, I disagree #129, but I think he had every right to look through her phone. If they are already sleeping together, there is nothing more private in the world than that So if she doesn't hide her naked self from him, why should he not have access to anything else? It was obvious she was keeping things from him because she didn't want him seeing her phone. The whore needs to be called out. OP should call these other "days" and fill them in, it's the least he can do, and then break her phone into pieces, followed by the worst break up he can think of!
So just because I'm sleeping with my boyfriend he should have access to my phone, my e-mail, my mail, you know, everything that I consider private? It would be totally fine for him to just pry around on my social sites (like facebook) or my computer history just because we're sleeping together? Even if I trust him with seeing me naked, I still like having privacy. You don't suddenly become one entity with no personal space once you begin sleeping with each other. Now, I'm not defending the girl, but I'm also not very pleased with the OP making a promise to not pry into her personal affects and then breaking it.
the only reason she made him promise was because she was hiding the fact that she is sleeping around with other guys. the girl is a fucking bitch who needs to be dumped and the guy is fortunate he was able to find this out before anything got too serious with her. also everyone is entitled to their privacy and bf/gf or not u shouldn't go thru their stuff however if ur not hiding anything serious (like this) there shouldn't be anything to worry about. stay faithful ppl!
Because some people respect privacy, that's why. So you'd be OK with everyone (your parents, strangers, partner) checking your every social media, ever message, everything you ever did? You have nothing to hide, no? Or it's just that you're insecure and controlling that you think your partner should let you spy on them and invade their privacy?
My boyfriend is allowed use my phone because he knows what he can and can't look at. He knows not to read my messages or look at my photos. Most of what I have to hide is to do with gifts for him. Also my friends have secrets that they might prefer he didn't know. Privacy in a relationship is not a bad thing. It's actually very healthy in that regard.
it's only natural to be curious about the things that are off limits. Most times when someone tells you not to look somewhere it's because they are hiding something. I don't think I would have broken my promise but I also wouldn't make the promise unless I fully trusted her reasons. good luck and hope you don't got the HIV.
Be happy, that she hasn't "Saturday1", "Saturday2" and so on, so you're one of the seven people she can be dating ;) By the way, maybe Tuesday is her client, and Wednesday is her boss, whereas Thursday is her mom and dad's phone. And, logically, Saturday is her boyfriend. The only one boyfriend she's dating with.
I love how you threw "logically" in there to convince everyone that made sense. Are you suggesting she only has seven contacts? Or that she only works or sees her parents one day a week? Or that she only has one client? Days of the week would be an incredibly ineffective way to sort your contacts.
This is where you simply switch up all those numbers and have her basically reveal it to everyone herself.