By therapygal - 17/11/2018 15:30
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I say your life sucks because she jumped the gun, but you deserve it for placing the name Amanda. You could've stated what type of appointment it was or abbreviated it.
OP deserved it? I don't want to jump to conclusions but it looks like, at the very least, you haven't been on the receiving end of constant unwarranted jealousy. OP didn't write anything sugestive like "mistress", "lover", "stripper party", etc. He just wrote a single, simple name. In my case, if I wrote "Amanda" instead of "psychiatrist" it would be to lessen the mental impact of knowing I am unwell every time I look at my calendar. A simple "Who's Amanda?" from the gf would and should have sufficed
I was saying YDI because it was very easily preventable. I still feel bad for him, but he could've at least told his girlfriend who Amanda is ahead of time or stated the appointment in the calendar. I have received jealousy before. Some of it was my fault because I didn't explain to my partner at the time what was really going on which could've prevented arguments, and other times were not my fault.
She shouldn’t have to cover her bases every time she has an appointment with a fucking female. Going to the psychiatrist is a very personal and possibly embarrassing thing to certain people. If she wasn’t ready to open up about such a thing then it’s her right to wait until she’s ready. She shouldn’t have to spill everything right away because her girlfriend is jealous.
Relationships need communication. If there is little to no communication, it won't last.
"it's my fault my partner got jealous" way to normalize toxic behaviour... I speak from my perspective, but seriously, a single name should not cause arguments. I repeat: the gf should have asked who Amanda is, that's it, no need to argue. While I agree communication is key in a relationship, inherent trust in your partner is also mandatory
It is very odd to list your psychiatrist by her first name. You should have more of a professional relationship, that makes it look too personal.