Today, I was at a gay bar and asking a really convincing drag queen about her daily routine. I asked how she tucked her penis in. She responded, "Um, I'm a woman." I said, "Oh I'm sorry, are you pre-op or post-op?" She said, "No, I always have been and always will be a woman, asshole." FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, while I was out to eat, I was approached by the restaurant manager. He told me that while he respected my personal choices, his patrons didn't feel comfortable with someone who used to be a man using the women's restroom. He thought I was a transsexual. I am a naturally-born female. FML
Today, I asked a girl out. She replied, "Sorry, I'm suddenly a lesbian." FML
Today, I steeled my nerve, gritted my teeth, pulled my finger out, and asked our new coworker on a date. He looked at me weird, then said those four words, “But I’m not gay.” Five weeks we’ve worked together and all that time he thought I was a man. I’m a woman, born a woman, with a vagina. FML
Today, my doctor told me to take off my pants so she could do a checkup. When I took them off, she gasped. When I asked what was wrong, she said she was expecting something else. She thought I was a dude. FML
Today, I was complimented by a stranger, who said I looked great in my outfit. I thanked her, and she immediately gave me a fist-bump. I stared curiously, and she explained: she was arguing with her friends about whether I'm a man or a woman. The pitch of my voice was the answer. FML
Today, I had a job interview. When I got there, the lady interviewing me shook my hand and said, 'Hello, I'm gay.' I found this strange and I didn't know what to say, so I stated, 'Aw, it's OK, I support you.' She looked pretty offended, and I realized why when I found out that her name was Gaye. FML
Today, while shopping, a few giggling girls came up to me and asked why I was wearing a dress in public. Highly confused, I didn't answer. When they walked away laughing, I realized they thought I was a man. I'm a woman. FML
Today, a little girl came up to me and asked, "Are you a boy or a girl?" I said, "I'm a girl of course!" She walked away, looking dazed and saying, "Whoa." FML
Today, I was working at my job as a cashier, checking out an elderly woman's groceries. She was very nice, and we chatted for a couple minutes. Once she had paid, she leaned close to me and said, very politely, "I'm so so sorry that I mistook you for a girl at first, young man." I AM a girl. FML
Today, I was talking to a friend and bemoaning the fact that my new coworkers keep mixing up my gender. She looked at me critically and said, "Yeah, until you can grow a decent beard, people are going to keep thinking you're an intern or a butch lesbian." FML
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jojo1031 0
Aren't those extremely personal questions to be asking? Could we get a transgender/transvestite to weigh in on this discussion?
Ncc_Tardis 0
I clicked YDI, then FML. It's a bit of both, I'vegottaa say, some of them can be pretty damn convincing!
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judgeymcjudge 0
*wonders if mlleangelique is someone I know...* #26 "Being intolerant of other people's mistakes is just as closed-minded, you know." Word!
prinnygirl 0
It's kinda like going up to a lady and asking her when she's due only to find out she's not pregnant. It's not so much what you asked that was offensive, but the fact that you made an (incorrect) assumption and also how you worded your question. First you assumed she was trans. Ok - it was a gay bar, so that happens. but you could have politely brought the issue up with a question like "So how long have you been doing drag?" or something. If she's open about it and tells you she's trans, then it's OK to ask her about the daily routine. If she's not opening up about the gender issue, then it would be better to just be polite and stop prying. To just ask someone - anyone - that you don't really know very well a question that involves what's between their legs the way you did is just rude. If you walked up to a girl in a straight bar and asked, "so when was your last period" you would prolly be lucky to walk out alive. Just because someone is trans doesn't mean you automatically have permission to ask about their privates. So yes - YDI.
alex_vik 1
Maybe they're like that one Geman teenage boy who always thought they were really a woman even though they had a penis?
judgeymcjudge 0
#34 I'm sorry, I just have to ask. How would "So how long have you been doing drag?" have offended this woman less?! :P
amaranthine_fml 0
#22, im a woman, and my index finger is shorter than my ring finger. that's a ridiculous way to judge a person #27 is right though. never assume. especially at a gay bar
vt_mruhlin 0
Generally I live by a rule that you should know a person at least sort of well before you start asking about their penis.
urrka 0
Not your fault... if you're in a gay bar, it's natural to assume she's a queen. Plus, they're usually REALLY convincing and REALLY pretty, so she should feel complimented!
Atropos_fml 0
#22, if the one finger (ring/index) is noticeably longer than the other finger, the person has more testosterone in his or her body. If they are relatively the same length, there is less testosterone. But this does not necessarily determine if the person is male or female. And what's wrong with women going to gay bars?
wordly 0
The word is transwoman, not drag queen. Drag queens dress up as women for fun/show but identify as men, whereas transwomen actually identify as women everyday.
gbaby4ster 0
This story is somewhat confusing.