By eliinu - 02/09/2016 02:45 - United States - Middlesboro
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Or could be that she actually thought it was meant to be insulting and was trying to reassure her daughter. I was told before that I had lost weight, like I was becoming 'too skinny' and looked like I had cancer. So I understand that sometimes, people comment on things like that negatively. It's not always a compliment, and although OP's mom was wrong this time, it's not like she called OP fat. Just that she didn't lose weight. Maybe her mom never thought she was fat in the first place, or she didn't know her daughter was trying to lose weight. The way she said it, even pulling her to the side instead of saying it in front of everyone, shows that she was trying to do damage control. I could be wrong though, but that's how I see it. OP, congratulations on your efforts! Keep going :)
Different age groups are used to different beauty ideals. Depending on OP's mother's age and where she was brought up, she may be used to "skinny" being used as a derogatory term. If you look at bikini models from 1960s and 1970s, most of them are quite curvy. Also, not everyone actually needs to lose weight. Maybe OP is actually healthy weight and should not lose any more weight.
Chances are you see your mum more than your aunt? If that's the case, mum is less likely to notice changes like that as she's seen you change gradually, whereas auntie will have had to wait to see you and will aee the difference. Dunno why your mum's being weird about it though...
Without sounding rude, how much do you weigh? Weight loss can be great if you are on the heavy side but it isn't always a good thing if you are already a healthy weight. Makes me wonder with the conflicting reactions between your aunt/mum