Today, I was at a gay bar and asking a really convincing drag queen about her daily routine. I asked how she tucked her penis in. She responded, "Um, I'm a woman." I said, "Oh I'm sorry, are you pre-op or post-op?" She said, "No, I always have been and always will be a woman, asshole." FML
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Fall
Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, while I was out to eat, I was approached by the restaurant manager. He told me that while he respected my personal choices, his patrons didn't feel comfortable with someone who used to be a man using the women's restroom. He thought I was a transsexual. I am a naturally-born female. FML
Today, I asked a girl out. She replied, "Sorry, I'm suddenly a lesbian." FML
Today, I steeled my nerve, gritted my teeth, pulled my finger out, and asked our new coworker on a date. He looked at me weird, then said those four words, “But I’m not gay.” Five weeks we’ve worked together and all that time he thought I was a man. I’m a woman, born a woman, with a vagina. FML
Today, my doctor told me to take off my pants so she could do a checkup. When I took them off, she gasped. When I asked what was wrong, she said she was expecting something else. She thought I was a dude. FML
Today, I was complimented by a stranger, who said I looked great in my outfit. I thanked her, and she immediately gave me a fist-bump. I stared curiously, and she explained: she was arguing with her friends about whether I'm a man or a woman. The pitch of my voice was the answer. FML
Today, I had a job interview. When I got there, the lady interviewing me shook my hand and said, 'Hello, I'm gay.' I found this strange and I didn't know what to say, so I stated, 'Aw, it's OK, I support you.' She looked pretty offended, and I realized why when I found out that her name was Gaye. FML
Today, while shopping, a few giggling girls came up to me and asked why I was wearing a dress in public. Highly confused, I didn't answer. When they walked away laughing, I realized they thought I was a man. I'm a woman. FML
Today, a little girl came up to me and asked, "Are you a boy or a girl?" I said, "I'm a girl of course!" She walked away, looking dazed and saying, "Whoa." FML
Today, I was working at my job as a cashier, checking out an elderly woman's groceries. She was very nice, and we chatted for a couple minutes. Once she had paid, she leaned close to me and said, very politely, "I'm so so sorry that I mistook you for a girl at first, young man." I AM a girl. FML
Today, I was talking to a friend and bemoaning the fact that my new coworkers keep mixing up my gender. She looked at me critically and said, "Yeah, until you can grow a decent beard, people are going to keep thinking you're an intern or a butch lesbian." FML
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jojo1031 0
Aren't those extremely personal questions to be asking? Could we get a transgender/transvestite to weigh in on this discussion?
Ncc_Tardis 0
I clicked YDI, then FML. It's a bit of both, I'vegottaa say, some of them can be pretty damn convincing!
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Freudian_Slip 0
#10, I'm not transgender but I can answer your question. For one, "transvestite" is not a polite word to use. Generally speaking, the drag queens I know are very open and have no problem answering them/talking about them without being asked. If a person is trans the pre/post op question is almost the equivalent of asking a gay person how long they've known/been out.
patrickhb 0
#10, no we couldn't, because they're morally wrong anyway. WOAH that was prejudiced, must have come from an unknown dark place in my mind. Apologies. Kind of.
babysittingfail 0
God loves all his children. Man or woman by choice or birth... I wish all people were at peace with themselves enough to see that.
awalkb 0
#11 is a trans
ammali 0
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
Okay, see, if you're in a gay bar there are tons of people in there like that, who make it very hard to ascertain their gender--either intentionally or not. She didn't have to be a bitch about it--someone who actually looks like a woman in a gay bar could be either way. It's part of the lifestyle.
Elisabetha Aarron 18
Wow you clearly need to educate yourself on why the OP was rude, invasive and why what they did was inappropriate
brodizzle 0
#12, transvestite is a perfectly fine word to use... as long as you use it to describe a transvestite, and not a transgendered person. Not all, and probably a minority of transvestites feel like they are trapped in the wrong body. Pointing out something about a transsexual person, however, like the fact that they still look like a man in spite of their best efforts (how do you hide your penis?) is just as rude as asking a natural-born woman the same question, however. I don't know what sort of transsexuals you hang out with, but the idea is to be indistinguishable from an XX woman. The fact that someone doesn't think you look womanly enough is an insult. So yes, #10, they are extremely personal questions, and the OP DI.
geesquared 0
@#14, shut the **** up, and your username sucks. Although it's not really an FML, you didn't deserve it. She was at a gay bar, for Christ's sake. People would ask... I assume.
polly87 0
LOL. That was awesome. Should have quit while you were ahead even though she deserved it.
i_am_tiff_21 0
Women can't go to gay bars? YDI
brianna1494 27
They literally never even said that.
andydawg8891 0
There was nothing wrong with your action. Plain and Simple.
dkcc1988 0
Comment moderated for rule-breaking.
you should have checked her fingers if her index finger is shorter than her ring finger, then she is a Man. If her index finger is longer than her ring finger, then she is a woman
luciaspiano 0
My index fingers are shorter than my ring fingers. O_o The last time I checked, I was a woman.
rockintothebeat 0
mine are the same size... :/
Kayokku 1
Actually, women can have longer ring fingers too. It's a sign that they have higher levels of testosterone, which is why men usually have it-- and it is also why many lesbians tend to have longer ring fingers. .... I have a longer ring finger. ;)
UltimateGIRness 16
On one hand I have a longer index,and on the other I have a longer ring finger,what would that mean?!?!?!
Neekovolwf 22
That you're bi of course :)