#10, I'm not transgender but I can answer your question. For one, "transvestite" is not a polite word to use. Generally speaking, the drag queens I know are very open and have no problem answering them/talking about them without being asked. If a person is trans the pre/post op question is almost the equivalent of asking a gay person how long they've known/been out.

#10, no we couldn't, because they're morally wrong anyway. WOAH that was prejudiced, must have come from an unknown dark place in my mind. Apologies. Kind of.

#11 is a trans

#12, transvestite is a perfectly fine word to use... as long as you use it to describe a transvestite, and not a transgendered person. Not all, and probably a minority of transvestites feel like they are trapped in the wrong body. Pointing out something about a transsexual person, however, like the fact that they still look like a man in spite of their best efforts (how do you hide your penis?) is just as rude as asking a natural-born woman the same question, however. I don't know what sort of transsexuals you hang out with, but the idea is to be indistinguishable from an XX woman. The fact that someone doesn't think you look womanly enough is an insult. So yes, #10, they are extremely personal questions, and the OP DI.

@#14, shut the **** up, and your username sucks. Although it's not really an FML, you didn't deserve it. She was at a gay bar, for Christ's sake. People would ask... I assume.

LOL. That was awesome. Should have quit while you were ahead even though she deserved it.

Women can't go to gay bars? YDI

There was nothing wrong with your action. Plain and Simple.