By Doy - 19/12/2011 06:31 - Canada
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I'm curious now. How would you politely suggest your partner to start working out? Is there a polite way at all or is it just one of those things? Some of us might come across this situation in the future so some good feedback could help save some relationships as well as pants sizes.
I'm curious myself to know the "polite" way to suggest this. I don't see anything wrong with the bf's comment or manners. He didn't insult OP in any way or call her names. Are you never allowed to mention anything bordering on weight, health, or body shape with your SO? What a sad lack of intimacy.
But why would it upset them? Would they rather have their SO not say anything and in turn lead to them possibly cheating? Communication is key, if their weight gain is not going well for their SO, they shouldn't have to sit back and watch. Telling them shouldn't be seen as negative, it's a good thing to let your partner know what you think of the situation.
I agree with your second point, but me agreeing won't change anything. You and I both know that lots of people cheat because of weight gain. I'm not saying its right but it happens. If you gained 50 pounds since marriage you may become less attractive in your partners eyes, as they might not find larger men/women attractive. Ending the relationship seems a little overboard (especially a marriage) for something as petty as weight gain, which may be why people cheat instead.
I need to do some crunches too. I've been hitting the egg nog pretty hard these past few days.