By awkwardpaul - 22/11/2013 10:18 - United Kingdom - Sheffield
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Well, technically speaking, you can learn to love someone. You just can't learn to love anybody. (As an example, most arranged marriages actually work out well, it's just that the bad ones are the only ones that become known to the public.) So if OP possibly likes the girl in question, just doesn't have any romantical feelings for her yet, then he could theoretically give it a shot, see where things take them. He might just end up falling in love with her. Although, he should only do this if he thinks that there's a chance for feelings to develop. (Else he would hurt her much more than if he'd just rejected her straight away.)
And why should that be an FML? Sounds like a great thing to me. Do explain how somebody loving you is a bad thing.
Ruining the friendship is the lamest excuse ever. Most friends come and go anyway. Unless you and your friend stay in the same town for the rest of your lives, you will grow apart. Take the risk or find a better reason. OP, maybe give it a try. You obviously friend zoned this girl, but maybe you two will actually find a connection. Or, if you find her completely repulsive, take her on a few horrible dates to show her how bad being with you is so she gets over it without ruining the friendship. Try being really boring, not a jerk. Girls stay with jerks.
As some friendships last I can see this one going either way. From experience, I have found if you have the feeling of being in love with someone and they don't have feelings back, it is very hard to watch them bring a girlfriend around and having to watch them be together after he already knows how you feel. Some people can bounce back after time and some just stay away from them.
Group messages are just as bad as "Reply All" which is just as bad as Twilight which is just as bad as the bubonic plague.