Today, my husband and I told my parents that I finally managed to conceive. My mom burst into tears of joy and said how great it was that she's finally going to be a "real" grandma, all within earshot of our adopted and now-devastated daughter. FML
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ZelmaSlayer
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Your daughter should cheer up! You can't choose your mother but she was chosen by you :)
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isabelf
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Some people can't keep their mouths shut.
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isabelf
| 17
Some people can't keep their mouths shut.
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iiTzNeeNerz
| 26
& those people are usually the ones that should.
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MrsDruidess
| 23
she wont ever learn too either, this is going to be a long long struggle for OP :-(
My father in law ruined a video of my son walking by saying loudly how shitty he thought my nephew was. It's been an issue getting him to stop openly preferring the 1st grandson over the 2nd. So now I cant even share the video with the family or it will start a huge family wide fight. good luck OP
My father in law ruined a video of my son walking by saying loudly how shitty he thought my nephew was. It's been an issue getting him to stop openly preferring the 1st grandson over the 2nd. So now I cant even share the video with the family or it will start a huge family wide fight. good luck OP
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HarshD9619
| 34
It's not just about keeping her mouth shut. It's plain sad for any adopted kid's grandma to think like this
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meisiemeisie
| 8
Was your son walking while singing Bohemian Rhapsody? If not, cut the audio & set the video to music. Problem solved.
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okokalright
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Try to cheer your daughter up OP. A real parent is a person who loves, supports, and cares for the child. It doesn't matter if you're not the biological parent. What your mom said was really insensitive
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Szaszaspasz
| 26
Dub the video so it is mute or has a music track. There is a lot of software to do that. I'm sorry you have to deal with that.
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Mons_fml
| 27
can use the track from 2001: a space odyssey. from when the early humans start using tools in front of the monolith. as he rises up and starts walking.
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Eariel
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You could edit the voices out and put some happy music instead.
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ZelmaSlayer
| 30
Your daughter should cheer up! You can't choose your mother but she was chosen by you :)
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sarcasmine
| 19
That is the most beautiful thing I've seen on this site
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tdawg91
| 17
This really is the most perfectly worded thing, I wish all adopted children with doubts could see these words
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I_Like_Dogs
| 28
This was beautifully put, but still it's tough to have a grandma that clearly doesn't see you as a real family member. Poor daughter.
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psychopolarbear
| 28
Yeah ^-^ one of my friends and her brother are adopted. She loved that fact and when asked why, would respond "everyone else's parents were stuck with whatever kid they had. My mother CHOSE us!"
I feel all adopted kids should see it this way. Their parents put a lot of time and effort into finding and jumping through the necessary hoops to bring their adopted child home. Of course they love the children that they choose.
I feel all adopted kids should see it this way. Their parents put a lot of time and effort into finding and jumping through the necessary hoops to bring their adopted child home. Of course they love the children that they choose.
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heirofhope
| 38
I know what you mean, but it's hard for her to do that. She just heard herself get rejected by her grandmother for her new sibling, which is going to be hard enough for her already. If she can't feel like she's been accepted into the family she's always going to see herself as different, isolated, and unloved. What OP's mother did was extremely wrong and damaging.
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kyliexrich
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I absolutely love this reply.
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jordanlite
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Coming from an adopted kid who has heard that over and over again, it's not absorbed the way it's meant to. Even as a little kid when people would say that crap to me I would picture my parents looking through a catalog of kids and would think "thank goodness I was pretty enough/cute enough/whatever enough for them to pick me." It doesn't make a kid feel like they belong, it makes them feel like they were picked because of some feature that made them attractive to their parents.
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746278Ab
| 14
Sounds like an FML for your daughter...
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tylercoffman420
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she should be happy her friends parents could hate them but her mom hand picked her
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Otherhats
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Geez, some people are just so inconsiderate.
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guss5441
| 18
Some people don't know when yo open their mouths
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missyfiona89
| 28
or when to close them.
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MajicSenpai
| 12
That's really mean -.- It's not your daughter's fault that she wasn't born into your family.
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climbr11410
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This is why kids are still ashamed of something they should be proud of.
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teentee401
| 36
^^^This. My (adopted) sister is almost 12 and she is still insecure about being adopted and sometimes doubts she's part of the family. The grandma is a a total bitch for saying or even thinking such a thing.
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apineapple
| 40
At least you adopted her. There are plenty of kids out there who wish they can have a good family.
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Sammeydw
| 22
Or any family at all. There are way too many kids that have no idea of what a family is. Because they have never had one, and many of the people they trust haven't had a family either.
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amileah13
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Wow what a shitty thing to say in front of her I feel so awful for your daughter.
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cheeeksss
| 29
It's also a shitty thing to think, imo. An adopted child is just as much a part of the family as a birthed one.
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amileah13
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Yeah, I agree. It's obvious for however long she has had her daughter, the grandmother was thinking this all along. I can't even imagine what she's going through and feeling. I hope this gets an update, I'd love to know how op and ops daughter is doing.
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Szaszaspasz
| 26
...and didn't cause their mom to have stretch marks and a trip to the delivery room. The biological mother did it for the kid's mom.