plus if she hasnt said anything about knowing.. maybe she's okay with the fact. But you should have told her earlier op

Ya generally if they find out when they are young they grow up with it and don't have a problem with it

How do you know? You have no idea how old the daughter is. The sister could have babysat her when she was four or five years old, which would make her about nine or ten now. "You're adopted" is something that tends to stick with you, even when you're very little.

OK #24 and still leaving that huge fact until 9 or 10 years old can cause huge trust issues! small children are much more resilient than many people give them credit for but growing up for 10 years and not knowing? you don't know how they will react waiting that long

Everyone seems to be leaving out that fact that OP's sister was DRUNK when she told her niece.

27 she said generally, Even if her statement is not true.

i really hope you guys have degrees...

An adopted child is just as much her "real" child as any biological child would be. Of all the stupid, offensive comments here, as an adopted child, this one hurt the most.

Yea, thank you 57. My biological parents were drug addicts who didn't give a **** about me and still don't. My real parents love me to death and all that my biological parents are to me is sperm and egg. They literally have no place in my heart. I hate it when people say "oh you're adopted so you're not a REAL child" it's just so untrue and hurtful. Blood isn't always defined by genetics but sometimes by actions. Blood brothers and sisters aren't genetically related (I'm talking about clans here) but are closer than actual brothers and sisters. Just like my parents love me whether I was their "real" child or not.

I'm adopted. Personally I verify it.

57, I hate when people ask me who my real parents are.

I don't know why everyone is thumbing 13 down. I'm adopted and I've known my entire life. Not a problem. I hate it when people say that they're sorry or ask who my "real parents" are too. There, everyone's ignorant questions answered.

Hence the FML..

You think?

No shit Sherlock

I'm adopted I don't mind.

Yeah, I have to agree, if this upset her at all she would have went to the op about it.

More angry or angrier please choose one of the above but not both.

What about getting stuck in traffic? Or people who talk through movies none of the viewers have seen before? Or disgruntled babies on airplanes? Or when the notoriously bad internet and cable go out during a miniscule winter storm and your best entertainment option is making absurd and unnecessary lists on FML?...I may have added a little too much bias to that last one.

Yep, like the day before her sister did. That would have been much more convenient.

Maybe she was ok with it and didn't care? Maybe she considers her adopted parents her real parents and there is nothing to discuss? I'm sure if she was upset by the news she would have brought it up at some point.

but I mean if you found out something huge like being adopted then I'm sure you would at least have some questions

maybe she was young and didn't understand it's a big deal.

well... sometimes it really is just the liquor talking.

You never know how someone will react to being told something as huge as that.

if she wasn't ready to hear it I'm sure she might have been upset (or anything other than the reaction she actually had) and probably said something to the op.

It's not like the mother knew that. The mother had no idea and just because the girl didn't say anything doesn't mean she's okay with it.

yeah ok, suppose she wasn't ok with it, don't you think she would act different? op would have noticed. We all get mad and try not to show it, but there will always be someone to notice.