By Pregnant - 14/04/2011 18:28 - United States
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DIVORCE HIM! my best friend's husband was planning on cheating on her while she was pregnant (she still is) but she found out. this was his second time cheating during the relationship but first in the marriage. he promised her he'd change and low and behold he's now asking his wife for orgies! she knows she should leave him but she says she can't handle losing him and the baby in the same year (they're putting it up for adoption because they can barely support eachother). I'm so worried for her
Uhhhh well great someone is pregnant. That doesn't stop that the sex is horrible, if you ever get any. And the ridiculous emotional crap that always goes down makes it hard to even be there for your wife, and when shes screeching at you and 40 pounds heavier than usual, it makes it hard to be attracted to that. Sorry, but I am guessing most negative comments on this are from women, or pregnant women, which kind of proves my point. Sorry ladies, it's true.
tell him to fuck off and to appreciate your baby. if then just ignore him until the baby comes out. ;)
I'm so sorry =| he's a prick, you have your child to look out for, ignore his dumbass and do what you have to do! good luck w| everything.
Even if he is no longer attracted to you, you ARE his wife. Unless you two agreed on taking out the part of the vows that include being faithful, he is an ass.
No - think like a divorce is an opportunity to forcibly take half of what the other person has worked their entire life for. As if divorce wasn't difficult enough emotionally to begin with. People who go the extra mile to be an uber-bitch and take half of what isn't theirs, for the sole purpose of SPITE should be ashamed and/or beaten mercilessly and don't deserve love.
divorce him immediately. You don't want to be stuck with that prick. Good luck with you and the baby. Get him to pay up child support. As he's also admitted to cheating, you should be able to have full custody of the child. What an asshole!!
You act as though it is just so easy to divorce someone. A marriage is not the same thing as a goddamn high school or a middle school relationship. If the OP thought that her husband was so easily replaceable, she would not have married them in the first place. Marriage is a serious and life-altering decision that two people make, and is to be taken as just that, serious. My first piece of advice to the OP would not be to jump on the divorce wagon, seeing as she most likely does not want a divorce. She loves her husband, she has an extensive history with him, they have a child on the way, all of these things are telling her to try and work it out - so divorce is not an easy fix. Anyone who jumps straight to divorce obviously either is not married, or doesn't take marriage seriously. :
he cheated on her and said bc she was pregnant that it was ok to cheat on her... I you would stay with an ass like that then you deserve to be miserable. a relationship is about both people working to stay together. clearly if YOU were married, or just not a 12 year old, you would know that. he clearly doesn't care about her or her feelings, and has no place in the heart or home of any decent human being
@54, Actually what the OP's husband did was try to justify cheating on her by saying that he is not attracted to her anymore, and that her current weight repulsed him - not that it was "okay because she was pregnant." So the rest of your statement is pretty much void to me and can not be taken seriously, seeing as how you can't even properly read an FML posting without jumping to conclusions and pulling assumptions from your backside.
monikabug I've been married for fourteen years. I know damn well what marriage is like and I have friends that have been in the same situation. Marriage IS hard work. To have a guy cheat on you is ok because her weight repulses him? you need a reality check girl!! Being stuck with someone you can no longer trust is not being in a relationship. I know I could never trust that prick again. OP deserves better!!
If you think cheating isn't grounds for a divorce, then what the hell is? My fiancé both agree that if one of us were to ever cheat, we'd have lawyers drawing up divorce papers the very next day. You can never trust someone ever again once they've cheated on you. You don't cheat on someone you truly love. There's no "oh I was drunk" " oh it didn't mean anything" "oh I made a mistake". If you truly love someone the thought of cheating would never even cross your mind.
If you're going to enter into a marriage with someone you are agreeing to go through thick and thin. Don't jump to divorce, try to work it out and see someone. Cheating is not okay, but it's not something a couple simply cannot overcome. Put in some freaking effort. Getting a divorce is not solving a problem like some of you seem to think it is.
Okay let me sum up my thoughts. Since reading is such a bad thing for you. *Sigh* Divorce is not an easy fix and is not for everyone, because genuine feelings are invested and it is hard to let go of someone you love, regardless of their betrayal. All things can be worked through - even if the end result IS separation. Again, the husband IS WRONG (W-r-o-n-g) in this situation BUT as I said SEVERAL times - people do not marry people they deem replaceable. So in closing, DIVORCE IS NOT EASY AND WILL NOT IMMEDIATELY FIX THINGS.
You are very judgmental. Everything you are saying also applies to him. He is the cheater. All that blah blah about replaceable yadda yadda shouldn't be spouted at her but at the man who thought it was ok to replace HER, if only temporarily, because he was repulsed by HIS child growing in her belly. But there is something wrong with her if she decides she doesn't want to be with a heartless ass clown who only thinks of himself. OP divorce his ass fast! and get plenty of child support. Throw in some pain and suffering too. Hopefully this doesn't mess up your pregnancy.
Maybe I just want my marriage to last. It would be horrible to work through, and it would take a lot of time, but I wouldn't serve the papers as a first option. This is why divorce rates are so high. I put a lot of effort into our relationship BEFORE I got married, I will put in everything I have before I'd file for divorce. OP got her feelings hurt, but I'm sure she knew he was a bit of an ass, unless they didn't actually have a conversation before they said "I do."
time to ditch that slut. leave the baby with him and get out of town. that should stop his whoring.