By Anonymous - 27/03/2013 08:00 - United States - Temecula
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You know you haven't had a real vacation til you've freeballed it whilst covered in shit! Stop being a dick in the mud- I mean stick in the mud. And what's wrong with loving ass? Ok so maybe he took the love too far with the poop smear, but it sounds like you're being a party-pooper.
Oh, Pleonasm... You WOULD know how to celebrate vacations, wouldn't you? I'm sure the ladies swooned when they saw you streaking down the street, covered in fecal matter. If I remember correctly, you even drew tribal patterns on your body in an effort to attract some females.
That's a shitty situation. At least your kid isn't learning a worse phrase.
I don't understand why you would go on holiday leaving your 4 year old, let alone leaving him with a babysitter you obviously couldn't trust instead of a responsible family member or friend.
I love how on anything that is even tangentially related to parenting, someone will find some reason to call the person a bad parent. Because the real issue here isn't that someone abandoned a 4-year-old, it's that the 300 character limit on FMLs doesn't give us enough room to know the exact situation, so it MUST be OP's fault.
I've been on vacation with a 4-year-old before. It was the worst vacation of my life. If someone convinces me to have a kid they aren't going on vacation with me until they're 12. Selfish? I don't care. I'm going on vacation, not on a trip to bring my home life to a tropical beach.
You obviously don't understand the reason a parent of a 4 year old takes a vacation. Hint: to get away from the kid for a couple days. This is one of the few times I would say sue the baby sitter. That person should never be trusted to care for children again and the courts can make that happen.
62 - There's a difference between just dumping your child on someone else or having someone watch them for a couple days while you relieve stress. Please tell me how you feel after going through years of little sleep, keeping a constant eye out to make everything is safe and sound, cleaning up messes multiple times a day, changing diapers and potty training, constantly validating things your child says or asks (because they require that a lot), entertaining them, stopping them from crying, and all the other 24/7, exhausting tasks of raising a child. My family didn't take the children out anywhere (like to restaurants or shopping, etc.) when we were little. We were watched by our grandparents. And now that I look back on it, I'll be doing the same thing because it takes a while to teach children proper behavior. If OP had taken the child, it wouldn't have really been a vacation.
#65 it depends on with who you leave them, besides why a babysitter? I'm sure if it was a family member OP would have mentioned that. I think it does affect a child. #69. I know exactly how that feels, but there is no way I would leave the kids just to enjoy myself. it's not something that you should put aside because you want to relax or w/e. My parents never left us somewhere so that they can enjoy their holiday. we always went along and no complaints there.
@8 obviously you don't have kids. She probably thought she could trust the babysitter and the point of a vacation is to get away from everything. Most parents don't bring their 4 year olds on vacation anyway unless it's disney or family. Hell my parents went on vacation when I was 4, luckily they were able to leave me with grandparents.
My husband and I have gone on vacations with our kids AND also on 3 day vacations without our kids. We're their parents but we are also a couple that needs to reconnect and make "us" time. Toddlers and a romantic dinners etc... defeats the purpose. The OP did nothing wrong except maybe trust the wrong sitter. Btw my sitter was worth every cent and followed my instructions to a T. Knowing my family, the kids would have sat in front of the TV, ate junk food and gone to sleep whenever they felt like it. When you hire someone, it is nice to get them to follow your kids' routine.
#62, if you can't be without your kids on a vacation then please just stay home. I don't want to hear whines of "I'm bored" at a museum or have sand thrown at me on the beach or wait for the elevator in my hotel to stop at every. single. floor. because Little Johnny just had to push all of the buttons.
#102/3 kids misbehave when their parents don't know how to handle them. I've never experienced that and I don't think I'll stay home just because some people can't handle kids. You were once a kid as well, you weren't miraculously born as an adult... besides as if you've NEVER in your life pushed every button on the elevator :)...
I feel like you need to be told that it's okay to be "you" outside of the parent role. That you don't have to be Supermom/dad, and that you're entitled (say it loud and proud) to time for yourself. You're a parent first, hell yes I agree, but you're also a person. And people, well, we need time to ourselves once in a while, even as parents. This doesn't make us bad parents. This makes us human beings. It's not something to be ashamed of.