By Cpt Colin - 03/01/2012 07:17 - United States
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*shiver* Oh, I'm really glad I'm not a smart woman like you, who will keep your boyfriend from going behind your back by letting him have meaningless sex with others. I demand loyalty from my partner. If I could not satisfy him enough and/or he would need more than one woman, our relationship would be doomed anyway.
I agree with you. That does show a lack of commitment if he did take her up on it. I wouldn't even be tempted to do so if I was put in that predicament, I am 110% loyal to my girl and plan to keep it like that. On another note, if she is against the act of sex, talk to her about it, chances are she had a bad experience with it when she was younger, quite possibly a family member or someone close to the family had done the unmentionable? There is usually a reason behind everything.. If there isn't one, slowly try and show her that it's not as bad as she makes it to be.. Either way though, best of luck OP
Ok morons. How the hell does going to a strip club constitute cheating? By your conclusions, going to a strip club, which is entirely voyeuristic would have the same ramifications as if your husband/boyfriend was sitting in front of the tv watching Cinemax. Grow up people. It is entertainment. Nothing more, nothing less.
In what way does looking at a partially dressed girl (I say partially dressed because fully nude clubs are far more uncommon) constitute cheating/unfaithfulness? I suppose you could say it is wrong if your girl is throwing herself at you, but you turn to a stripper instead. However, in OP's situation, or a situation where you are in a relationship and your girlfriend is sexually uninterested for the time being, going to a stripclub and looking at a girl dance with her top off does not in any way constitute cheating. You don't touch strippers, you don't have sex with them. You look at them with your eyes only. It's no different than sitting at home watching porn. My girlfriend loves it when I go to clubs, because a simple lapdance is a stepping stone to a fantastic night alone with her.
Maybe if you begged long enough she would do a threesome with you and the stripper
Wtf? Time for a new girlfriend. Maybe get her to give you money for a car first though ;D
'just because she didn't want sex, once?' Not wanting sex once in a while is definitely normal, but sending your boyfriend to the strippers so that they can pleasure him (and that's not even true: stripper =/= prostitute) while that's your 'job'? Really, how fucked-up is that? What's the next step, sending him to her best friend so she can have sex with him? If your girlfriend hates the idea of sex that much, there is something incredibly wrong. You should talk to her instead of accepting her offer.
Really? Her "job" is to pleasure him? Excuse me? It's not her "job" to do anything for him. Lots of relationships work without sex being involved. Maybe she wants to wait til marriage? Or her libido has decreased due to depression, being on the pill, medication, or she could even be in her first trimester of pregnancy. We don't know what the circumstances are. The stripper thing is weird, I'll admit, but maybe it's because she feels bad that she can't find it in herself to do anything for him sexually right now.
I actually agree with 61 for the most part. Biggest question is, if OP's girlfriend hates sex so much, why is he still with her? Thats a such sign of irreconcilable incompatibility, and if she's been sexually abused, then the possibility of a normal and healthy relationship diminishes. And it's not OP's responsibility to stay with her because he feels like he has to 'help' her. I've personally dated several girls who were victims of sexual abuse, and it's rough. Either way, there are asexual guys out there that would probably be a better match for OP's girlfriend, and there are many many girls that would be a better match for OP.