Well my grandparents live far away on the other side of the country, so following my grandfather's death 6 years ago it was just my father who was available to go and help my grandmother pack and move to a new house, me being caught up with work. That's when everything got thrown out, I was never asked. Fast forward to last year, I was finally able to move with my wife and kids in to a place we can call our own, and we have just finished our living room last week. That old record player would have been perfect there. That's when I called my grandma to ask for it; She said "ask your father".

Eh.. Unless you expressed interest in it in the first place and ASKED to hold onto it especially since you knew you weren't in town, there's no real reason to be mad. People sell and toss stuff all the time. If you had specifically asked for it to be held, then I can understand the FML.

Still doesn't really feel like it raises to the level of "FML" to have accounted for your future interest they would have to never throw away anything ever just in case you might want something. Most people don't ask their kids if they want some of their parents possessions. This feels more like a "that sucks ah well I'll hit up a second hand store" I mean I'm never going to give my mom shit for what she did or didn't keep after my grandmother died. Sure I lost my grandma but she lost her mom and no matter how close I was to her that mother/daughter relationship was closer and my mom had every right to think only of herself and her sister when deciding what to do with my grandmother's possessions.