160
Add a comment
You must be logged in to be able to post comments!
Create my account Sign in
Top comments
Comments
Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

So what you are saying is that not Sociopaths ALL murder and get caught... But does that mean there is the possibility her fiancé might ... And NOT get caught ? Im confused

Reply

But in all honesty, not all sociopaths murder. Some turn out to be very clever and manipulative and make great white collar criminals. Or successful heads of multinational corporations. I'd recommend reading 'The Psychopath Test', OP. Very interesting book.

Reply

Psychopaths and sociopaths are not the same thing. Serial killers and the like are psychopaths. They are born with the inability to feel remorse and a strong urge to seek out the emotional responses they lack through risk taking and impulsive behavior. Sociopaths are simply socially awkward. They may be somewhat self-centered, manipulative, and seem fake. They consider what they get out of any situation and only show emotion when it serves their purpose. They will, on the other hand, go to great lengths to fit in with what society considers normal. Unfortunately, OP, your relationship probably won't work out because your boyfriend will never feel deeply for you; if he truly is a sociopath, that is.

Reply

I don't think sociopaths are all criminals. If they are manipulative, then they can just as easily rise to a high spot in the business world. Or politics. Also, wouldn't it be possible that some people have different levels of sociopathy? I feel like I have many sociopathic tendencies.

Reply

They aren't all murderers but none of them feel compassion or care about anybody else. Clearly the one you met was only pretending to give a rats ass about you. Every single sociopath is dangerous and can kill and harm with no trouble at all. Always be on alert when near one.

Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

Actually, sociopaths are the same as psychopaths. The only difference is that in modern society it is a specific kind of "psycopathism". Sociopaths feel no remorse for their crimes and even get a joy out of torturing, murdering, and raping. Don't believe me? Research the disease and even some of the famous ones like John Wayne Gacy and Michael Ryan. Being socially awkward to the point it's a disease is a minor disorder like social anxiety. But if you still disagree, why don't you go enter a room, oh say one with mid-evil torturer devices in it with a sociopath. That way you can either prove me right or prove me wrong.

Reply

Well look at it this way, he's still the same person either way! Sociopaths can't help how they're born. True they can't feel remorse or intense emotions, so they learn to mimic them. It can actually be very lonely being one, for example, they can't truly love their children in the same way you or I could, they see them as an extension of themselves. Plenty of narcisists kill themselves because they know they'll never find someone they believe is good enough for them, so even though it sounds douchey they are the ones who have to live with it. How about you talk to your fiance about it? If you're getting married you should be able to talk to him about anything. Best of luck =)

Reply

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Reply

Actually 60, sociopaths do kill. Want an example? Ted Bundy. He's a well known sociopath. He was smart and manipulative and could've gone great places, but he chose to kill. He didn't feel any remorse for it either.

Reply

It's more typical for a murderer to fit the profile of a psychopath than a sociopath. A lot of successful business people are diagnosed with sociopathy. They see others are expendable; only pawns to be used for their personal gain. If he really is a sociopath and he's expressed interest in marrying you, it's likely you might fit some sort of criteria he wants in a partner. Or you're just a stepping stone to a grand future he envisions... for himself.

Reply

105-is completely right, sociopaths don't have to be killers, they manipulate. Charles Manson was a sociopath who got people to kill for him (although he also killed) but a lot of sociopaths aren't killers. You just never hear about the ones that aren't..

Reply

The main argumentative differences between sociopathy and psychopathy is the controversial "nature vs nurture". Sociopaths are not born crazy, they are raised dysfunctionally and become "crazy" (nuture vs nature). If a child is raised in an unstable or abusive home they may very likely become a sociopath. They may never commit murder or anything close to it, but nevertheless, they only consider themselves and how the world affects them. Basically, if your fiancé is a sociopath, you need to break it off immediately, because you are a pawn or someone that provides some sort of convenience. He doesn't love YOU, he loves what you do for HIM. Knowledge bomb dropped!

Reply

^ But sociopaths cannot help that they can't truly care for someone. In a sense they may actually BELIEVE that they love that person. Sure, it may be for their own personal, selfish reasons to have their life be according to how they dream a life should be. Yet, in their head, they don't know that they technically don't love a person like normal people love. They believe it to be true with how they rationalize it in their head... So OP's fiancé can infact believe he loves her, even though his "feelings" on love are not like normal peoples, because this is how he has known "feelings" to be his whole life.

Reply

How do you know if you're a sociopath? Not feeling remorse for purely selfless reasons? I don't think I've ever felt guilty for doing something until someone starts screaming at me. Then again, I'm pretty sure the worst thing I've done is massacre Oakvale in Fable.

Reply

That depends on the type of sociopath. For example, I am a high functioning sociopath. I'm certainly not the nicest person and coupled with my Aspergers, I'm horribly socially retarded but I'm definitely not dangerous.

Good thing you found out beforethe marriage! Just be careful and watch him extra carefully from now on. If he seems a bit off his end then...I would say leave him but then he may go nuts. But hope you're safe OP! FYL

Reply

16- Running means that he's still alive, and I imagine sociopaths to be a little close to zombies in that they continue to move toasted their prey, and the way to get rid of a zombie is by taking him down so I used comic book logic to answer this question because it never fails.

Reply

Jail I guess can't count either because they still get out … eventually. And he'll come after her !! (speaking theoretically - from what a sociopath would probably do...)

Well don't assume... If it hasent been a problem yet don't do anything, you can bend anything like that to fit anyone. If it becomes a problem, then suggest getting help, or if you absolutely cannot deal with it, then you can think about leaving him. But don't do it just yet.

Reply

I mean if he does other things. I admit that I don't know much about sociopaths, but I know in general it feels pretty terrible to have anything "wrong" with you mentally, so being rejected by his fiancée because he so happens to fit the description would feel horrible for him, when really he could be fine/able to manage it.

Reply

There is nothing wrong with being a sociopath! Why does everyone think so? A sociopath has no feeling of remorse or moral obligation toward others, how does this automatically make them killers? Does it makes them potential killers? Yes. But they will not murder you just because. Get it straight damnit.

Reply

119, True, they are only predisposed to it, but who the hell wants to take the chance? Besides, they're still assholes who shouldn't be in relationships with anyone who isn't like them. They're incapable of the same spectrum of emotion, which is a bit of a key thing when dating someone who isn't a sociopath...

I dated a guy that fit the description of "sociopath". It took me 3 months to realise what exactly was the problem, and then a further year and a half to rid myself of him. Even after that, he continued to stalk me for a few months and threatened my friends. Not a nice relationship, nor a nice man. If he becomes very controlling or lies about things, rather ditch him. You do not want to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. Especially if it could turn physically abusive. From one woman to another, be darn careful, lady.

Too many negative votes, comment buried. Show the comment

Loading data…