By Anonymous - 22/12/2013 08:45 - Canada - Richmond
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Some women aren't into that. Your girlfriend may be one of 'em. Sucks for you, but try asking her what she likes next time.
I know a lot of girls that feel this way. It's understandable. I think that it can be extremely intimate- having a guy's face right there. But if you're with a person that truly enjoys doing it and know how to stop you from being self conscience about your body and/or taste, then I think less women would feel unease about it getting done.
It just takes the right person. I don't want to get personal but I will. The last guy I was with before my boyfriend was TERRIBLE! I had to fake it every time and fast just so he would stop. My boyfriend on the other hand is good at it. We communicate and tell each other what we like. Communication is the key in a relationship and the key to good sex. There's nothing embarrassing about telling your partner what your into :)
@13 & 24 I don't like getting oral and it's not because I haven't gotten my mind blown yet. I've really good oral, to the point of squirting, feeling weak, ... I STILL DON'T LIKE IT. I don't have to like it and I don't like it when people think less of my boyfriend because he must not be doing it right. Clitoral stimulation feels different, it's very intense and I don't like intense orgasms. I like them slowly building up and shivering through my body, not one big hard orgasm. It doesn't mean my boyfriend sucks at it (in the bad sense).
I've read that only 80% of women like being eaten out. I happen to be one of the 20%. I don't care how hot or orally talented the guy is, I get grossed out at the thought of having someone's wet, slobbery tongue in my private parts. Massive turn-off for me. In OP's case, whether it's his technique or the act itself that's bothering his girlfriend, something needs to change. And if she's also in the minority of women who hate oral, he needs to figure out what she does like in bed.
47 - Same here. I do not get off on direct clit play at all, tongues, fingers or vibes. It actually HURTS. If you're indirect working around down there with something, it's okay for foreplay, but it will not get me off ever. Penetration, on the other hand, combined with indirect pressure? Is heaven.
Maybe she should know that faking it will not make the companion better at pleasing her..
I always thought so, too, until I dated a guy who wouldn't let it go if I didn't orgasm. His constant asking if I had yet and telling me we weren't done until I did caused a total mental block. I started faking it just to satisfy his ego. It became such a habit that I had trouble not faking after him. I still occasionally find myself faking for no reason, since I have real orgasms with my husband. It's a lot of pressure for women to make sure their lovers know they're doing well.