By heart broken - 29/12/2013 09:05 - United States
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Maybe the two years have been bad for other reasons. I was miserable for most of the first year of our marriage, but it wasn't my husband's fault. We had moved to a very small town over an hour from anywhere bigger, I had so many problems getting a license in this stupid state I had to let go of my CDL, I was jobless for a long time, and I had no friends because this town is one big clique. I got depressed. OP, he married you for a reason and I'm sure you two still love each other. If you aren't sure why he's so unhappy ask, calmly and without anger. Tell him how bad it makes you feel to hear it all the time.
Yet again? You guys need to talk this out, or get help with a marriage counselor. Both of you sound unhappy in your relationship.
I agree they definitely need to talk about it before jumping to divorce. My mom and dad read a book when they were first married called "His Needs Her Needs" which helped them understand each other better so they have been able to cater to each other for the 28 years they've been together. My fiancé and I were on the brink of breaking up and my mom suggested we read that together. We did and talked our problems out and changed our behavior a little bit and we haven't had a problem since. I suggest OP and her husband read the book too!
It's good that you found out now, assuming a divorce will follow, before you two had kids together. Then again you can ask him what's wrong and try to work things out with him.
I'm sorry but it sounds like you either need to talk this or get a new husband. There's no reason to put up with that It's going to be hard to do... Good luck, I wish you the best