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By a / Wednesday 10 April 2013 19:09 / United States
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Maybe the husband is just misunderstood. OP said 'announced'... meaning they may have made the decision ages ago but are now only officially telling their friends. And naturally, he's been sampling the field already.

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26 because some people don't know how else to live.. Only a cheater would say that it's the other persons fault that they cheated. I know many cheaters and victims alike who had or gave no good reason for why they cheated or were cheated on.

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26 - my parents broke up for this exact reason. My dad would continually cheat, use drugs, spend out money on going out etc. Her fault was wanting him to grow up and, I don't know, be a father?? She was forced to be in sole control of the finances because my dad could not be trusted with money. So yes, she obviously deserved the heartbreak of a failed marriage and feeling worthless like she wasn't good enough etc. Jerk.

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^ I am so sorry. I also agree. Did my mother deserve to be screamed at and berated my dad every day for 20 years? Did she deserve have no control over her OWN money and be screamed at whenever she purchased something not on sale? Did she deserve to be yelled at for "not doing enough for the family" by a man who would sit on his ass several hours a day watching tv while she worked full time and cared for her children? Did she deserve to watch her daughter (me) become suicidal and self i

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Neither of us ever said that men deserved to be cheated on and women never cheat. Nor did we say that men never get abused. We just pointed out that no, people do not 'deserve' to be cheated on. Do you think people deserve to be lied to and decieved? Is that their fault too?

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26 so you're seriously saying that a person must have done something wrong to be cheated on? I'm sure you think that when someone is abused by their spouse, they deserved it too. Or if someone is raped, they provoked the rapist. Sometimes there are people who are innocent. If someone gets drunk at a bar one night and cheats on their spouse, how is the spouse to blame at all?

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I'm not saying that its ok for anyone to treat someone that way. But it is to an extent their own fault if they choose to stay and put up with it. At least OP is smart enough to remove herself from the situation. No, it's not ok for him to cheat on her, but good for her for leaving him.

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Has anyone ever heard the phrase, "You have to admit there is a problem before you can solve it"? When it comes to divorse, BOTH sides are at fault. One way or another. There are no "Winners".

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I-I'm sorry. Do you mistake me for someone who would hold up a friend of mine who'd go and cheat? I'd personally would find it dishonorable and if he wanted any help I'd bluntly tell him to "piss off"

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Wait, what about op's getting divorced and you can be done with him and, what exactly, is a getting divorced and you can be done with him. Is it something everyone should own like an ipod?

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generation y or millinia is like 83 to 2004 I doubt said generation basher is over 30 and I doubt #7 or whatever is under 9 so you're bashing your own kind bro

This is not an FML. This is good news. You finally get to drop the dead weight, and if I were you I would get proof of infidelity. That can often skew the results of the divorce in your favor.

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