By ZaraAce - 15/04/2011 11:38 - United Kingdom
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Off course it is going to be hard and it is sad for OP but i mean all those comments up there.... But even if she was the best wife in the whole universe for those 30 years, and it seems that she still loves her husband, she still did not realize or probably she did not want to really see what was going on in the relationship and i think she was afraid to confront it and try to work things out.
And chances are it hurt the husband just as much. I really doubt it was something he wanted. My mother was with my stepfather for 10 years, but was completely miserable for the last 3-4. She finally left him a few weeks ago. Despite the fact that she was in a loveless marriage, it still breaks her heart that she left him. She's understandably upset that her marriage failed. What I'm trying to say is that just because the husband left OP, it doesn't mean he isn't just as upset. It doesn't make him an asshole. Just because they've been together for 30 years doesn't mean they've been happy. Sometimes things just don't work out. Both you and your husband deserve to be happy, OP.
If it got to the point where he uses a lame high school breakup line instead of actually having a serious conversation and telling you the real reasons why he doesn't think the marriage works, dump his immature ass, feel shitty for a week or two, then go out and look for someone better. Or burn the house down, collect the life insurance on his fat lazy ass and live as a cougar. Your choice.
I think 94/97 is on par here, all you people are raging without knowing any facts, for all you know he is leaving because she cheated on him, usually it ends up being the people that think they are owed something for being married that find themselves in these situations
tell him "haha you're stuck now" and don't sign any divorce papers
But if you can't afford a costly divorce and your spouse just tosses it on you, I think you should have a right to refuse until you can afford it. I agree, no one should be with someone they don't want to be with, but there are circumstances where forcing a divorce on someone despite their disagreement is wrong.