By Red - 04/12/2014 16:31

Today, my girlfriend found out that I secretly watch porn while she sleeps, but she seemed to be fine with it. That's until the next day, when she got on my Facebook account and publicly shared every porn page I visit. My father even commented, "Poor choice in porn, son". FML
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cmchappy 25

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Women are evil creature !

Yeah Op, you need to go on mature porn website. Stop being a pedo.

I could only justify her being upset if they live together and he doesn't attempt to have sex with her then watches porn while she sleeps instead. That is a big "if" though, kinda doubt it. She's probably nuts.

Also definitely NOT saying her actions would be justified whatsoever. Regardless of how he made her feel, that was childish and a major violation of trust.

He obviously didn't trust her to begin with, since he was watching it secretly after she went to bed. You can't violate trust that doesn't exist. While posting those sites publicly was definitly a bitch move, he should have been open about it from the beginning of this relationship.

Personally I dont think people should be doing thing they are ashamed of. If you like it enough to do it, own in. I am not saying blast it from the roof tops but dont hide shit, thats when you get in trouble.

I'm not pardoning her from what she did, but some girls don't appreciate their boyfriends watching porn. It has nothing to do with the actual porn it just makes them feel insecure.

#76, says the person with a cartoon profile pic...

Any guy who says he doesn't watch porn or fantasize about other women is a liar.

or he could have wanted to wank in private, not wanting to put sex into the relationship, which can and has caused plenty of couples to end their relationships.

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I really don't get you people. For even the smallest of things, you think the optimal solution is to ditch the person. This is a relationship. If he is going to break up with her for something as small as this, he really shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.

By her posting this she humiliated him and violated his privacy. That means she isn't trustworthy, why be with someone you cannot trust?

@21 That's true. But that's simply what I think. That doesn't mean I'm right. Other people have different opinions, and that's fine.

It's not a small thing, what she did was a huge violation of his privacy. And if she did this as oppose to talking with him about it like an adult, it shows how immature and petty she is. It's not just the act, it's the behavior behind the act that's important as well.

Well personally I don't think people in a relationship should be lusting over other people. AND he kept the secret from her. Shame on him, I applaud her.

you applaud her for posting stuff on facebook instead of being mature and speaking to him about it in private?!! I'm not making any judgements as to whether porn is a bad thing or not, but if its an issue, you talk about it. what she did was a punk move that is a violation of trust in a relationship.

To be honest OPs girlfriend sounds a bit like a psycho. If the girlfriend had a problem with it she really should have talked to op about it instead of going behind his back. Communication is key.

Wtf!?! My BF and I watch porn. I've never gone psycho on him and vice versa. Just because you watch porn doesn't mean you are lusting after someone. For us it gives us ideas to try......

I feel like since he said she found out he watches it "secretly," it leads me to believe that they already had a conversation where she said she was uncomfortable with it. If he didn't like that, then it's also up to him to open up lines of communication rather than watching it sort of behind her back. Still I'm by no means saying that her response was appropriate

I would hope that this is reason enough to break up. She violated his trust, his privacy, and she wasn't mature enough to just talk about it. Regardless of wether or not porn is okay, or that he has a really poor choice in porn! That is not okay. If I were OP, I'd probably make things much worse though. Like replying to the dad's comment with "it may be a poor choice, but it's still better than her." If you're going to go down, then go down swingin!

I feel like she should have gone to him. I personally would feel hurt if my bf went straight to porn over sex or asking for naughty pictures or something similar. But men watch it, not a big surprise there

Watching porn is a taboo thing so when you're watching it, it's not gonna be something you do openly and it's not something you mention or bring up on purpose. My girl knows I watch porn and doesn't mind but i still do it secretly because, well it's private until I make it known

This may be news to you #100, but women watch porn too...

She could ruin things like a job or college for him with stuff like this. I totally agree that she is untrustworthy and this is worth a breakup

#47 I see nothing wrong with porn in a relationship as long as both are open about it. My hubby watches porn, I prefer erotic stories. That doesn't make our relationship any less real or honest. #108 I agree, watching porn, unless people watch it together as part of foreplay, is to be watched privatly and needn't be announced each and every time. But your girldriend knows that you watch porn. OPs girlfriend didn't know. It doesn't justify exposing him like that, but he should have been honest with her in the first place.

She humiliated him in front of friends and relatives: he has the f****g right to give her a good kick in the ass.

I definitely agree with #8. You can't just randomly ditch people for the slightest things and runing away from yout problems is never the solution of choice. Though this is really fucked up because once things are on the internet you can never delete them or undo the harm they've made.

I completely agree with you 47, he shouldn't have been lusting after anyone else while in a relationship. I'd have been pissed if I were her too! If he just wants a wank then why not use a picture of his own girl and use the bathroom - or maybe even wake the real thing up since she was right beside??

"Hey, babe. Wake up. WAKE UP, BABE. Hey, I'm horny. Let's fuck." Genius.

Obviously he didn't trust her enough to share with her that he watched porn in the first place! By the way, porn ruins lives as you get older. It's harder to keep erections and ejaculate without aides.

#47. #133. If I'm in a relationship and have to use my own hand for relief, she doesn't get /any/ say, barring legality of course, in what images I use to get me there. If you don't want him jerking it to porn, then, well, satisfy his needs. If you can't do that, there's a bigger issue at stake. If you /won't/ do that for whatever reason, you're part of the problem that sends him to porn. And in my honest opinion,the kind of girl who'd do this is exactly the kind of girl who'd use sex as a weapon to get what she wants. OP: I won't say dump her. But I will say sit down and take a good hard look at the relationship and reevaluate if she's the one for you. This wasn't some prank. This wasn't something she did out of anger in the heat of the moment. This was cold-blooded retribution. A calculated and vicious attack designed to humiliate you in front of your friends and family, to destroy your self esteem. An attack that can have possible repercussions for the rest of your life every time you make a new friend, every time you apply for a job or a security clearance or loan. Personally, I'd very likely be done with her and walk away. If she'd done it right away, I might reconsider. But If she's willing to bide her time and think it over and make this decision over a round of solitaire with a different deck of cards, I'd be terrified of what she'd do the next time she felt like I crossed her. I'd consdier it a controlling and abusive act. And that is NEVER ok from either partner.

Exactly. If you have a gf why do you need to sneak around st night fantasizing about other women? She should dump you and find a real man who doesn't need to watch porn while she's next to him sleeping.

cmchappy 25

Best dad ever

Why does OP's gf have his Facebook?

Why not? I have my boyfriend's and he has mine. We trust each other and wouldn't do anything like this.

If you trust each other why would you want it? I'm sure OP trusted his girl too, and we all see how that played out.

well watch better porn, problem solved

op you should ask your father for some of his favourites

I hope you deleted it immediately

Or at least apologize and then post an updated list of better porn watching sites.

You have a girlfriend. Why watch porn when the real thing?

when you can have*

Because you can't have the real thing 24/7, but, as long as you have a good internet connection, porn will always be there.

Also his girlfriend probably does not look like a porn star

Outlets are outlets, my friend.

Porn stars don't even look like porn stars….

how the fuck does a porn star not look like a porn star?

#7: That would be because sex isn't "the real thing". Masturbation and intercourse satisfy different needs, one isn't merely an inferior substitute for the other.

he means when you see them in real life not made up

watch Don Jon for the answer to that question. seriously.

Having a girlfriend doesn't automatically mean having sex.

#85 I know there is much more to a relationship than just sex (dates, emotional support, etc.) but sex is often involved and can serve as a superior substitute to masturbation.

#54 Satisfying the desire for sexual pleasure is the common goal of both masturbation and sex (unless you're looking to raise a child in the case of sex). We men can all agree sex does a better job of fulfilling the desire for sexual pleasure.

Because some porn stars look like an average person and not a super sexy sex goddess.

Porn in a relationship can level out differences in the sex drive of the partners. It's a good thing, you just have to be open about it.

Watching porn and have sex with your girlfriend are two different things, like watching baseball on TV with a beer and a big pack of potato chips and play baseball with friends in the old empty field behind the school. The second one is definitely healthier but from time to time watching a match on TV is not that bad at all.

1. Porn does not say no. 2. Porn does not get headaches 3. Porn does not have period, pms etc 4. Porn is not another woman or man. 5. Porn Is your friend and your relationship glue!

Learn restraint, porn watching pigs. If you have a dedicated girlfriend, wait for her to share it with.

not every guy thinks like that.

#143 You left out: Porn doesn't give you a wierd look when you ask it to dress up like Smurfette. Porn doesn't tell your friends about your penis size and technique. Porn doesn't care if you're using other porn. Porn doesn't berate you if you go off too quickly and roll over to go to sleep.

So guys only have sex with women who look like porn stars ?

If your gunna watch porn, you gotta pick the quality stuff man. Your dad must be so disappointed to have a son with such a poor choice in porn

Such poor taste in porn*

If you're going to correct yourself at least finish the job. *you're 2 more aside from that as well.

Why is such a small error something to obsess about? It's fine if he forgot an apostrophe and used the wrong form of you're. Why is it so bothersome?

LMAO! Break up with the her. Your dad's comment was funny! xP

Why would she care if you watch porn?

Some girls have issues with it. They think that they aren't satisfing thier boyfriend's needs, if they need to watch porn. Or they have low self-estem, and get jealous of the woman in the videos. Some of my friends won't let their boyfriends watch it, for those reasons and more. Personally, I could care less. Just depends on the person.

#25, I agree with you totally. I don't understand what the big problem is with a guy watching this, it's better than him cheating!

I agree with what she said. It can be seen by the girl as disrespectful, or that the porn stars are prettier then them. For me I could care less if the girl I am seeing wanted to watch it.

Exactly how much less could you care?

I'm a girl in a relationship and I occasionally watch porn. My boyfriend is more than enough for me but late at night, bored, when we're not together, well...yeah. I don't know if he does and I don't mind that I don't know because I'm okay with it either way.

some people believe that porn portrays an unrealistic view of sex and women.

I'd be upset if my boyfriend watched porn. It's a misogynistic and harmful industry that abuses the women involved.

Agreed. It's ridiculous. It's porn. What's next, is she going to get pissed because he likes watching a movie and thinking the woman in it is attractive. We both watch porn and for us it Amps up out sex life. Gives us ideas to try.

63 - Shit's supposed to come out of your ass, not your mouth. "Misogynistic and harmful", "abuses the girls involved"? Give me a break.

I personally don't want my boyfriend watching porn. I'm not a jealous or strict girlfriend. I just don't want him looking and getting pleasure from other naked women. I should be the only one he adores naked. :) But also porn can control a persons life. I have a close friend who was addicted to porn and it destroyed his marriage. At that point it is extreme, but it still can have negative effects on relationships

It does lol. Most women don't look like that in real life. And a lot of things that go on during porn don't really happen and some are "extreme", you could say

"Either I cheat or watch porn. Take your pick." Lol either way he's getting pleasure from other women

65 it's true. Do some research on the brutality mainstream porn is all about, and the abuse that goes along with it. Might open your firmly shut eyes a bit.

Uhhh most women in the porn industry voluntarily choose to be a part of it (at least in the mainstream porn industry). Many women even take pride in their work and feel empowered. The whole generalizing the porn industry as a whole as being misogynistic because it's traditionally been catered towards men is complete crap.

71, jealous or strict girlfriend? There's nothing more immature than "don't do (blank) or I'll leave you." Of course there are things we're not comfortable with our significant other doing, but we're each our own person and a relationship is about mutual respect not being strict and controlling with each other. Not gonna get into the debate of whether or not porn is bad, but equating it to cheating is neurotic. I'm a guy. I have no attachment to the woman in a porno I watch. I get off on watching the act take place, when I'm in a relationship I normally imagine it's me and my gf doing those acts, not the actors. Your argument sounds just a tad bit insecure to me.

You do know that you have to audition to be a porn star right and the girls want to have sex

#57 And it does. But then nobody really believes that Mickey Mouse is really a real mouse going on dates with Minnie Mouse. Porn is "just a movie" too, it isn't supposed to be realistic. #71 You do sound a bit insecure if you think watching porn is the same as getting off over another woman. Porn plays out fantasies that sometimes wouldn't work in a real relationship (i.e. threesomes, fetish that the partner isn't into), and it offers instant gratification if the partner isn't available or in the mood at that time. Addiction is a whole other story, and in that case it was the addiction that destroyed the marriage, not the porn. To say people in a relationship shouldn't watch porn because one person's porn addiction destroyed his marriage is the same as saying people in a relationship can't have a glass of wine with dinner occasionally because one alcoholic destroyed his/her marriage with the alcohol abuse.

Well, to be honest....Porn is to sex what McDonalds is to Food. Unless it's the erotica couples karma-sutra how-to pornos, Don't take sex tips from Porn...well you can but don't expect it to be fantastic. Most of the positions are specific to good camera angles, not to the woman's pleasure. Most orgasms are faked. Very hardcore stuff that is quite abusive to the girls (the shelf life on average nowadays is 3 months, because the girls' bodies cannot handle much more than that) be very careful and always be 100% certain your partner is consenting fully before trying it out. And don't forget to Kiss and keep that intimacy, which porn does its best not to show.

I don't believe I ever mentioned telling my boyfriend that he can't watch porn or I'm leaving him. I just mentioned that I don't particularly like it, and he, thankfully for me, has no interest in it. Good try though

And also, my point is definitely not that porn is bad. I just stated my own opinion of porn.

I've heard of people that got dumped for masturbating because that's "just like cheating." People are ridiculous.

I can't understand someone not being okay with their SO watching porn. It's fkn 2014 like we practically breathe wifi, and the availability and convenience of porn is beautiful.