By helpme - 03/05/2017 02:00
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1. Gay or not, why was he in your bed? 2. That's some strange restraint if he's in love with you and you two have been in bed with each other for years and never tried anything.
Eh it's not that weird for a girl to sleep in the same bed as a gay best friend. It's not much different then sharing a bed with her girl bff. What strikes me as if it's how he played off as gay for so long unless he's actually bisexual. That's hard to fake for that long.
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Wow, time for a restraining order! I really suggest having all your electronics looked over to make sure he didn't do anything to them, checking for cameras, and changing all your locks. Getting a self defense weapon of some kind would also be a good idea. If you live in an apartment complex, inform the manager that he shouldn't be allowed in the building anymore, and explain why. Otherwise, talk to your neighbors and ask them to let you know if they see him around the property. Unfortunately, if he's taken any pictures of you, I don't know of a way to make him get rid of them, unless he does something illegal with them, or you KNOW he has photos he took without your permission in a place you have a reasonable expectation of privacy. Also, you should talk to your mutual fitness first- depending on what kind of stalker he is, he could try to either paint you as the villain, get inside your friends' heads and make them think you are over exaggerating, or potentially target them. It might also be a good idea to get counseling- handling a stalker is very emotionally and mentally stressful, and that's when the person has been lying to you the last several years. He also could have done stuff that damaged your ability to gauge what behavior is appropriate, your ability to reality check, and so on. I hope this advice is helpful to you in some way.
I have to say even though he's gay I find it odd that you would let him sleep in your bed, with or without you
So if he pretended to be gay then that means that he is not actually gay.. ryt. Now, even though I see the icon showing you to be male, this is probably untrue, since, if you were indeed a man, he would have to be gay to fall in love with you. But since he is probably straight, you must be a woman. Now tell me exactly why he was sleeping on your bed again?
A lot of people sleep in the same bed as their friends, even opposite gender friends. Some people are more okay with it if the friend is gay because they wouldn't be attracted to them. It really depends on the people involved and their relationship. Sleeping in the same bed isn't automatically a sex or romance thing. It's pretty common. The bigger issue is how disturbing it is that someone would lie like that just to get close to someone.