1. Gay or not, why was he in your bed? 2. That's some strange restraint if he's in love with you and you two have been in bed with each other for years and never tried anything.

You've never shared a bed with your friends? Used to all the time in high school....

I don't see the problem. A friend is like a sibling.

Maybe this is a cultural thing? I heard it's not common in the US to have sleep overs at all. In most parts of Europe no one cares. I've slept in the same bed with friends multiple times, same sex and opposite. Even cuddled *gasp*.

I've shared a bed with my friends before when either I or they stay over, both male and female. If you're comfortable with each other then sleeping side by side isn't that strange.

No, I never let a friend sleep in my bed. The thought never even crossed my mind.

Never shared a bed with a sibling either. That strikes me as even more weird.

I mean would most guys have forced themselves upon their crush if the were in the same bed? I don't think that "unusual restraint" rather just not being a rapist

If your close enough to a guy or girl friend wise, I don't see the problem I mean unless you are in a relationship

I don't want to be the one to say it but.....things happen.....when you're.....not entirely....awake....note I am the face of negative thoughts.....but it's not uncommon......

Wow, time for a restraining order! I really suggest having all your electronics looked over to make sure he didn't do anything to them, checking for cameras, and changing all your locks. Getting a self defense weapon of some kind would also be a good idea. If you live in an apartment complex, inform the manager that he shouldn't be allowed in the building anymore, and explain why. Otherwise, talk to your neighbors and ask them to let you know if they see him around the property. Unfortunately, if he's taken any pictures of you, I don't know of a way to make him get rid of them, unless he does something illegal with them, or you KNOW he has photos he took without your permission in a place you have a reasonable expectation of privacy. Also, you should talk to your mutual fitness first- depending on what kind of stalker he is, he could try to either paint you as the villain, get inside your friends' heads and make them think you are over exaggerating, or potentially target them. It might also be a good idea to get counseling- handling a stalker is very emotionally and mentally stressful, and that's when the person has been lying to you the last several years. He also could have done stuff that damaged your ability to gauge what behavior is appropriate, your ability to reality check, and so on. I hope this advice is helpful to you in some way.

why is this downvoted?

Don't know. This might be overreacting but also might be accurate. We have no way to know. I hope the OP knows and potects herself if needed.

I have to say even though he's gay I find it odd that you would let him sleep in your bed, with or without you

why? me and my best friend slept in the same bed a few times and he's not gay. we're just friends. it is possible to want nothing from someone.

Did he pretend to be gay or maybe he has realized he is bisexual? If he pretended to be gay to everyone for you there is a serious problem. Overall the lie is weird,I think most straight guys wouldn't want the person they like to think they are gay.

Somebody needs to learn that pulling this sort of crap only works in movies and that this will only make their friendship fall apart, not blossom into something else.

Is his name chuck or Larry?

So if he pretended to be gay then that means that he is not actually gay.. ryt. Now, even though I see the icon showing you to be male, this is probably untrue, since, if you were indeed a man, he would have to be gay to fall in love with you. But since he is probably straight, you must be a woman. Now tell me exactly why he was sleeping on your bed again?

the icon may show up male but i've noticed on alot of stories the icons don't match, it's a bug. i've seen on other stories where the OP comments that they clicked on the right icon only to have it show up the opposite on their fml's.

Mercy! LMBO

A lot of people sleep in the same bed as their friends, even opposite gender friends. Some people are more okay with it if the friend is gay because they wouldn't be attracted to them. It really depends on the people involved and their relationship. Sleeping in the same bed isn't automatically a sex or romance thing. It's pretty common. The bigger issue is how disturbing it is that someone would lie like that just to get close to someone.

Why were you letting a guy sleep in your bed gay or not gay?!!