I agree. This sucks, but I'm kind of sick of hearing these fmls. People need to own up to their feelings. You shouldn't just love someone for 9 years and never tell them! It's ridiculous. And if you did tell him, but he doesn't like you back, then get over it! There are plenty of fish in the sea. If it doesn't work out with someone, it just wasn't meant to be. Move on!

@ #30, ur absolutely right... sounds like a cliche but yea.. never too late to tell someone u love em... YDI for not telling him 9years ago....

errm fish-love isn't what the OP is after. Sucks anyhow, sorry to hear.

This. YDI for never telling him your feelings. It's been 9 years, you could have said something. If you did say something and he didn't feel the same way then YDI for holding on to those feelings. There is no reason to hold on to a unrequited love, it only causes lots of pain, anger, and frustration. Also, in that 9 years if you weren't all gaga over him, maybe you would have found a man yourself.

I really don't think you love this guy OP. If you really did you wouldn't have waited 9 ****** YEARS to tell him. I can understand maybe a few weeks or something, but if you really, truly love someone, you aren't just going to sit around and have him live his life while you stand and watch. Or if you honestly did that, then YDI x9999999999 and you should **** off for wasting my time with your pity party.

yeah, i'm gonna go with the majority here. don't just sit around pining away for a man for 9 years and then boo-hoo when he proposes to his girlfriend. if in the extremely unlikely scenario that he was with the same girl for the entire 9 years, then you should have accepted reality and moved on to someone available years ago.

Oh but guys don't you realize? If it was teh troo wuvs he would have come to her and popped the question, no relationship time required! I've tapped into OP's thoughts.

OP is a mother ****** bitch.

I agree #40, YDI for the same reason PLUS hes your bestfriend meaning it should have been a little easier to confess

Chill #88

You're Ross Geller! It will be allright if you guys belong to each other :)

I agree with #25. It sucks, but if you didn't tell him earlier, too bad. You can't tell him now - it will only ruin the moment and likely the entire friendship. He's happy and in love with his current girlfriend, not secretly pining after you. Time to realize he's not yours and move on.

How is that fair to the Gf is she tells him. Lets say that the best friend does think about it and decide he might want to take a chance with his "best friend." The Girlfriend who worked very hard and was there when the Best Friend needed it has now had her love taken from her. I think the OP lost her chance eight years ago. I mean I understand not wanting to put yourself out there, but after nine years OP let the Girlfriend have her dream. I know you don't want to see him marry the girlfriend but you lost out. DOn't ruin the moment.

No-ooo... If she's held it in for nine years she can just keep right on doing it. Best-case scenario is that she tells and he says, "That's sweet, but look, I'm marrying this girl I actually love and communicate with." Worst case, everything gets all confuzled and bemuddled if the guy is as insecure as the OP and the wedding goes to hell because one person decided that NOW was the right time to be just a little bit selfish.

aggreeeeeed 100000%.

Sounds exactly like the movie My Best Friend's Wedding..

Are you crazy? Who the hell does that? Oh, you're proposing to the love of your life? Let me just admit my undying (creepy) love I've had for you these past 9 years. That sort of screams obsessive stalker to me...

I agree. Two years is one thing, a decade is another. You have to realize its not going to work out. Don't ruin this for two people in love because you are selfish.

i think him fake proposing to her was probably the sucker punch, though. why do people do that? it's just cruel. guys...when you want to do anything like that, PLEASE do not practice on somebody else.