Today, my boyfriend went to work instead of going to my father's funeral. He works at home and chooses his own hours. FML
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Today, my boyfriend forgot to pick me up from work. We work at the same place. FML
Today, my boyfriend took a day off from work because he felt "sick". I thought he might come see me since he hadn't come over in a while. Nope, he went to hang out with his ex instead. FML
Today, I woke up early, showered, dressed, and made the 40 minute drive to work, only to discover when I arrived that today was my day off. When I got home my live in boyfriend was gone. I called and he told me he was at the beach, right near my work. FML
Today, my boyfriend said he couldn't come to my grandfather's funeral because he was at his cottage and couldn't make it. Later that day, when driving home from the graveyard I saw him walking down the street, with another girl. FML
Today, my boyfriend told me he was going to take me out somewhere special, so I called in sick for work. Turns out he had made reservations for the restaurant I worked at. FML
Today, my boyfriend decided to visit me at work. With another girl. FML
Today, my boyfriend canceled his plans to attend my father's wake, not even 10 minutes after he found out there won't be any alcohol on offer. FML
Today, I got a call from my boyfriend's boss. She was wondering if he was okay, since he hasn't shown up to work for the past two weeks. Now I'm wondering where he's been going when he leaves the house each day. FML
Today, I attended my father’s funeral. I have the week off work, and one of my colleagues is using this time to make a play for my job. I’m not supposed to be checking emails, so I can’t call them out on it until I get back, by which time it may be too late. FML
Today, my boyfriend proposed to me during a funeral. FML
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OysterPearls 33
That's horrible of him. I'm not saying you should dump him, but this is one case where you should consider it.
sublimelover 6
or maybe he has a hard time dealing with his emotions in situations like that. could be a million reasons why he didn't go buy you'll never know until you talk with him OP.
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Comments (65)
movaa 11
How disrespectful. I wouldn't tolerate that OP.
False_Stupidity 42
Here's a different take. Maybe the boyfriend was so upset about your fathers death that he couldn't go for fear of breaking down and being the one needing support, so he threw himself into his work to cope. People deal with grief in different ways
movaa 11
No matter what, the boyfriend should have gone . That day is about being there for your girlfriend and supporting her through hard times. Not about how you feel or what you're worried about. It's both selfish and inconsiderate of him not to go for any reason.
Tthug 34
Maybe they've only been dating for a week. Maybe he wants to break up with her, but not be the bad guy, so he's giving her a reason to do it. Maybe he's cheating on her and not actually working.
Brandi_Faith 34
I understand what you're saying, and the boyfriend may have had a reason (I assume it's because he doesn't like funerals and death etc) however, it's not about how he feels. The point of being in a relationship is to be there for someone else and to "share" a life with them. He should've stepped up and put his girlfriend's needs before his own. Even if he was really upset the father died or has a hard time dealing with death and funerals, imagine how much harder it would've been for his girlfriend. I would have a serious talk with him op and make him explain his real reason, then explain how much it hurt that he wasn't there when you needed him and if the relationship is going to work then he has to change.
PyroSam 21
I'm sure your dad would've loved him...
ezrajab 22
Omg that's terrible of him sorry op I would seriously reevaluate you relationship that is a red flag right there again sorry op
amileah13 26
Dump him! If he can't leave "work" to go to your fathers funeral, then he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with you!
anticulas 12
Some people can't just leave work at the drop of a hat.
lochiamochia 25
OP's boyfriend chooses his own working hours, so in this instance he could spare a couple hours to be present at the funeral to support his girlfriend. Funerals are usually made a couple days to a week after the death. He could have rearranged any important tasks around the time of the funeral. It's all about priorities. He chose work over his girlfriend.
Brandi_Faith 34
Plus even if he still had work to do that day he could've gone to just the funeral and reception and not gone to the burial or something. That's like an hour and a half 2 at the max.
okudatwo 11
All of you who just pass judgement on him & say that he's a jerk may not know his whole situation. Maybe he recently lost a loved one too, or something else bad may have happened to him, & he may need to mourn or deal with his situation before being able to help & support OP through it.
rachel8234 3
when my dad died i weny to school instead of his funeral because i couldnt deal with it.... u never know how people process emotions until u talk to them
PANDORUM89 21
Everyone saying that maybe he has trouble in situations like that or because his emotions can't be handled is just ridiculous. HER father died how about HER emotions? Imagine how uncomfortable she probably feels having all these people around when all she probably wants to do is cry and be just with close family. But y'all are right I mean this is all about him and how uncomfortable he feels. /sarcasm. If my boyfriend did that to me I'd call him every name in the book then peace out. A hole.
RuthDaGreatest 6
Not trying to defend the boyfriend but maybe he has a thing about funerals like maybe he's scared of them or doesn't like the vibe that comes from a funeral or something like but then again that's not a nice thing to do especially to your GIRLFRIEND'S dad.
barfcannon 24
Who likes the vibe at funerals?!? This is about supporting the OP while OP deals with all the emotions from losing a parent.
drainedoflife 10
Boyfriend is a dirt bad