By .... - 30/11/2014 04:29 - United States - Geneva

Today, my boyfriend went to work instead of going to my father's funeral. He works at home and chooses his own hours. FML
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OysterPearls 33

That's horrible of him. I'm not saying you should dump him, but this is one case where you should consider it.

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sublimelover 6

or maybe he has a hard time dealing with his emotions in situations like that. could be a million reasons why he didn't go buy you'll never know until you talk with him OP.

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OysterPearls 33

That's horrible of him. I'm not saying you should dump him, but this is one case where you should consider it.

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TrippingOnAcid 29

Even if he wasn't a fan of OP's father (although there's nothing in the FML to suggest this) there's no reason why he shouldn't have supported his girlfriend. They definitely need to have a talk about priorities at the very least.

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KK3137 31

I'm not defending him, but maybe OP's boyfriend just feels very uncomfortable in those kinds of situations? Which is not to say that he shouldn't have been there for suppoet, but maybe it was really hard for him..

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Acers1 13

I should say that maybe OP's boyfriend might of felt awkward during that, because i was supposed to go to a funeral that was with some of my family which i didn't know. There may be a chance that he felt awkward also.

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Acers1 13

I should say that maybe OP's boyfriend might of felt awkward during that, because i was supposed to go to a funeral that was with some of my family which i didn't know and was kind of awkward. There may be a chance that he felt awkward also.

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gpg5 19

I'm the kind of guy who laughs at a funeral.

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15Erik 21

"Can't understand what you mean" Barenaked Ladies baby!

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SpreadTHEKILLER 14

Maybe he didn't like your father much, or had something very important to do?

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fuckyourlifeOP 25

Nothing is more important than supporting your girlfriend with a loss of a family member. And also, not liking him is not an excuse.

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omi194 8

My husband's cousin died and we hated each other. I still went to the funeral because I knew she was important to my husband and he was really upset and I love him and wanted to be there for him. That being said he's only her boyfriend and we don't know how long they've been together so it doesn't make him a bad person just because he wouldn't go. There could be a good reason why. If her dad didn't like him maybe he would feel uncomfortable about being there cause he feels like her dad wouldn't want him there and that people might be mean to him. I got plenty of dirty looks at the funeral I went to with my husband cause a few people knew we hated each other. He might just be scared to cause waves.

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NellieeNell 18

I agree. What does a sloth sound like?!

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supertacowaffle 41

So inconsiderate. Don't stay with someone like that OP. Not worth the time.

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sublimelover 6

or maybe he has a hard time dealing with his emotions in situations like that. could be a million reasons why he didn't go buy you'll never know until you talk with him OP.

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sarah5745 41

#8 you are one of the only people here being considerate. Op shouldn't dump him straight away, there could be a logic reason behind him not going

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barfcannon 24

That's something to discuss before the actual event. From the FML we're really not sure when the boyfriend told OP. Although, if my boyfriend didn't go to a funeral in my family and his only excuse was "work", as this FML implies, that would not fly with me at all.

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tehdarkness 21

Some people just suck at this sort of thing, but going forward he needs to understand what you need in order to feel supported. Maybe he can't do it, and then you may want to break up with him if you can't accept that.

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onlychildFTW 33

I find funerals horribly awkward. When I go I get bitched at for "not caring blah blah blah" since I don't show emotions. They think I'm some horrible person for not being emotional. Then when I don't go I'm bitched at for not caring. I find its just easier to not go and then I can ignore their phone calls and prevent a scene from happening.

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jamiro11 19

maybe your boyfriend is not ready to accept your father has died, and he wants to process it in own personnel manner. or maybe he was afraid he would have an emotional breakdown during the funeral and he doesn't want you to see him like that. the fact that he made up a bullshit excuse does not mean he hates her dad.

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lennon_ 16

I get that you're thinking of her boyfriend and his feelings but she's the one that lost her father, not the other way around. I eventually forgave my bestfriend for not being there when my father passed away, but I truly haven't forgotten it. My friend explained and said it was hard for her to deal with death but imagine how harder it is to deal with a loss like that without support.

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Soleia_Grace 15

he probably did have a reason not to go like someone else said she won't know until she talks to her boyfriend about it.

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Im2Shy 16

I'm sorry op, this is a horrible way to be treated, I hope someone was there to comfort you in your time of need and may your father rest in peace.

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