By yes i meant ex-boyfriend - United Kingdom - Derby
Today, my boyfriend took a day off from work because he felt "sick". I thought he might come see me since he hadn't come over in a while. Nope, he went to hang out with his ex instead. FML
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  FracturedMinds  |  21

I noticed the screen name. One of the better ones, considering FMLs pitchfork response to every one of these relationship ones. Cheating in a relationship is one of those things that would have me end it soon after I found out.

  JustinW2  |  1

Now wait, how is the boyfriend a scumbag, exactly? All that was said was he decided to hang out with his ex while he was sick. Not that they were fooling around, not that anything happened. He simply chose to visit someone who wasn't the OP when she expected he'd see her.
He didn't tell her he would, didn't lie to her and so on.

So what did he do that was wrong with the amount of information we have?

  jazzy_123  |  20

21, I somewhat agree with you not everyone is the same. I broke up with one of my old bf's because he was going away for a while and we didn't want to deal with that. Then he came back and we tried again without ever thinking we would. Finally when I broke up with him after all feelings were gone, we didn't try again. So some stories there are exceptions. This one however, there isn't one. OPs ex is just an idiot.

  NiceGuysDoWin  |  21

I don't of my friends was married for two years, and her husband went through a rough patch that downward spiralled. Got hurt on his job, and couldn't work for almost a year, depression set in and he started drinking, and things got pretty bad. They divorced, but had a kid together, so they obviously were in touch.

Three years later, he'd gotten his life back together. Clean and sober, working again, back to his old self. Their second marriage has lasted almost 15 years and they are one of the most loving couples I've known.

Generally I'd agree that exes are exes for a reason, but sometimes it DOES work out.

  vencku  |  13

102 - While it clearly worked out for them, I have to admit I wouldn't be able to do that. If my wife left me during a rough patch, I wouldn't want to get back together afterwards. If she can't support me in my bad days, she doesn't deserve my good ones either.

  skyttlz  |  32

Or if they had a lot going on (school, work, family etc) and decided they didn't have the time to keep a relationship going. That's how it was with my ex. He was working more than full time, I was part time working and about to go back to school part time so we just decided to drop the label. Now we are close friends.

  KK3137  |  31

I'm just thinking, is it so wrong to want to meet your ex? I mean, some people still get along with their exes. I'm still friends with all of mine, and with some we meet up on a regular basis. Sure, if they hadn't seen each other for a while I understand why OP got sad/mad/hurt, but unless the boyfriend slept with the ex I think the fact that it's an ex shouldn't mean they can never meet up as friends..

  SillyGirl4602  |  23

Something similar happened to me once. I was at my boyfriends house hanging out with him and his ex called so he left me at his house to go "talk" to her. He did end up cheating and we broke up. I agree with you that op should talk to him. If he cheated then it was the right thing to do breaking up with him. But if nothing happened then she should have told him how she felt and tried to come to an understanding before breaking up.

  SaturnV  |  25

41, the issue at hand isn't that OP doesn't trust the boyfriend, it's that spending time with his ex took precedence over spending time with OP on his day off. Given that entering into a committed relationship typically implies giving each other a certain amount of priority, it is not unreasonable for OP to be upset that the ex was given higher priority than she was.