By NotMacklemore - 13/02/2015 04:59 - Australia - Heidelberg
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Im sorry but if they are inappropriate, they should've been chucked in the bin, not donated. And to top it off, if she paid for the clothes, they have no right to throw our her prooerty even if shes living with them, and if they bought it, well then they obviously didnt think it was inappropriate.
25, uh no. If my parents think something I'm wearing is too short, they may comment, but ultimately there's nothing they can do about it. Maybe if I was still 18 and they provided all of my wardrobe, then yea. But at this point I'm 21, and 95% of the things in my closet were purchased with my own money, meaning they have no right to go through my clothes and throw things out if they don't like them.
As a parent myself, I hope I can teach my kids (all girls) before they hit that age about self respect and dressing respectfully. But if I find something they are wearing not to my liking, I hope I have a relationship with them that we can give each other constructive critisim. I won't say no you can't wear that, but I would like to be able to put my two cents.
#25 & #40, I believe you'd both be wrong. I'm 21, and live with my mum, but she has no say in what I wear. And before you carry on about respect again, I do respect her greatly, and she also respects me. How can you expect someone to express themselves when their parents are setting a dress code?
First off, if you're an adult and living with your parents it's different. But if you're a kid and you're wearing something horribly inappropriate (like a 10 year old wearing booty shorts that show her bum cheeks) then yes, the parents absolutely have the right to tell her she cannot wear that! It is the parents responsibility to protect their children, & show them right and wrong even if they're telling them what to do, because the parents are the adults and they know better, and that's what parents do. You're not there to be there best friend, you're there to parent them. If you can be their best friend as well, then that's best, but the number one priority is to shape how they grow up so they grow up into responsible adults and are protected as children in the meantime. I agree that all of this should be said with a sit down conversation and explanation of why certain things are inappropriate. With that said, it sounds like op is a teenager (possibly young adult) and has too many clothes (seeing as she didn't even know they were gone or that the first few she was trying on were the same as what she had). Sounds like there may have been clothes all over the floor or something and the parent was making room by getting rid of clothes near the back of the closet. But either way, the parent shouldn't have sold op's stuff and should've talked with op if there was a problem in my opinion.
My thoughts too. Op, you realize you had tried on the first few outfits that were already yours and you didn't even realize you already had an identical outfit in your closet at home already? I may be wrong, but I don't think it was necessary to buy back all those clothes seeing as you didn't even notice they were gone and didn't even remember what they looked like when you were trying on an identical (ended up being the same) outfit. It doesn't make what the dad did right, but it's something to think about op.
Exactly. I'll be the first to admit that I have way more clothes than I need, and I have been known to misplace an item or two and not notice for a while... But even so, I do recognize everything I own and I'd notice right away if I was shopping and picked up identical items. And if there were "heaps" of my clothes missing I'd definitely notice that right away as well. So I can't even imagine how many clothes OP must own to have this happen and take that long to notice!
Donate his clothes, and take him shopping in that trift store.
I think he might be trying to say it's time for you to move out, in his own jerkish way. I hope you didn't have to pay to much for your clothes. Again.