By unicorn_skies - 18/01/2014 08:33 - United States - Yorba Linda
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It could fit into karma I guess... I mean.. That's kind of being cheap, buy within your means. Don't need to try and impress your date to the point where you have to take back what you bought. That's like the guy renting a Porsche and saying it's his, just to impress her!
I don't think there is anything wrong with buying something nice for a date and then returning it. maybe she knew she would only wear it that one time. what's the point of owning a bunch of dresses your only gonna wear one time. she should have just saved the tag and then return it. they can reattach the tag. Not a bitch move just smart saving (:
There's no reason for you to go out and buy an expensive dress if you're only going to be wearing it once. Especially if you have intentions to return it after. That is a bitch move. You're only making it harder on the stores part. Not to mention it is extremely unhygienic to be wearing clothing out and then returning it. If you're going to buy a dress to wear, go for one you know you will wear more than once/you will be able to afford. Otherwise, do the smart thing and rent something.
124, it's pretty well known that "karma" is used colloquially to mean that good things happen to people who do good things and bad things happen to people who do bad things. It's like telling a person to go to hell--you're not actually telling them they're going to be tortured by the devil in the afterlife.
129, Sounds like a lot of people in the comments are trying to tell themselves they're not stealing when they buy cloths for the sole purpose of using it and returning it. In defending OP I see them really defending themselves. How one could conclude such actions are acceptable is beyond me.
Huge difference between this and renting a tux. The tux is rented with the knowledge that it would be worn and then returned. A tux is cleaned thoroughly before being rented to someone else. In this case, it is actually fraud. All the people who are defending this would be the first ones to complain if the store didn't notice it had been worn and put it back out on the rack. This is basically stealing and there are no excuses to be made for it.
I think your saviour did a poor job of keeping you from being embarrassed.
If you really can't afford it they might take it back. If you can, now you have a pretty dress!
This has me wondering how expensive the dress was. You can buy dresses just as pretty for 20-40 bucks. I wouldn't spend a shit load for just a date though. Specially if I can't afford it. The most expensive dress I ever bought was my prom dress and I have friends who bought some just as pretty for a lot less cash than mine. Way to go OP. Next time, stick to your budget and lets hope this date was worth it (:
The tag would've looked a little tacky on a date, and the dress couldn't have been that much. Normally dresses you wear to outings (fancy outings) cost $100-$200 at most, and even then it won't make you lose your car or anything. I have to say YDI though, because you shouldn't buy things you can't afford. You'd probably look just as good in a less expensive dress OP!
I got my prom and winter ball dresses at a cheap store and it turned out just fine. I don't understand the girls that pay $200+ on a prom dress they'll wear once.
111, you know, I felt the same way but then I thought "I didn't have a quinceanera (I'm Hispanic so we do that. Its kind of like a sweet 16) so I didn't get a pretty dress... I never went to any other dances in my 4 years in hs, I don't even wear dresses that much in general, I'm going with my bf and I want to look stunning.. so what the hell I'll do it!" and even then I kept a budget of $100-$200. I believe my dress was either $120 or $160. It was worth it! :)
Well, that's not the other person's fault and really, if you were intending to return it, you shouldn't have bought it in the first place.
People don't always have the money to buy an expensive dress and keep it, and are you going to blame OP for wanting to look nice for a date and getting a dress that she thought would impress? People do it all the time, there's no shame in it.
Since when are people such downers on other's happiness, and all of a sudden all "righteous"? If you feel shame for making yourself happy by taking advantage of a system that hurts no one, then keep it to yourself, you don't need to guilt someone else because they're smarter and don't have shame where shame isn't necessary.
Um...it IS the other person's fault. Sure it was well-intentioned, but that doesn't change the fact she butted in and tore it off - what if the OP had bought it, but wasn't sure about the size and was giving it a test run before deciding whether or not to return it? People need to keep their damn hands to themselves.
The store maybe losing a bit of profit if they reduce the product. But the reality is stores sell products at a much higher price than when they buy it so it doesn't harm the stores really, they'll still make a profit...just not as much as before. However I don't believe it's right to buy something and intend to return it. Unless there is something wrong or it doesn't fit.
Wardrobing, as it is called, costs stores upwards of a billion dollars a year. It might not seem like a huge deal, but people do this professionally. They get good at it. You cost people jobs. It's like saying one match won't start a wild fire. If everyone is lighting matches and throwing them into the woods, something is going to burn.
I agree that buying something you fully intend to return after using it is a shitty thing to do, but at the same time, so's just walking up to a total stranger and fucking with their clothes. Regardless of how well-intentioned it may be, it's extremely rude and none of your business in the first place.
I work at a high end department store, coincidentally in the dress department, and witness this lack of class on a daily basis. We make commission, so when something is worn and then returned, it directly affects our pay and IS equivalent to stealing our hard earned money. It's synonymous to eating at a restaurant, tipping your waiter, and then taking the tip back because you threw up the food. I've come to despise people who do this. It's utterly classless and dishonest. If you can't afford a $300 dress, there is likely a forever 21 nearby with plenty of cute ~$20 dresses to satisfy your need and bank account. And the best part is, that man you're trying to impress, won't be able to tell the difference, nor will he care.