By Anonymous - 18/02/2013 07:09 - United States - Owensboro
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I'm trying to think of a way to explain how this might just be a big misunderstanding... I've got nothing :( sorry
I can only sort of think of one, in that maybe he didn't hear the "you can do better" part. It's still terrible for him to say you're fat, but at least it could mean he likes you for more than your looks? Of course, that's extremely unlikely. So f*** your life OP.
@31 - Are you incapable of saying "fat?" Aside from the obvious one, where he knows you're fat and doesn't care, he could just be saying whatever to end this conversation as quickly as possible with his grandmother, because he knows it's going to lead nowhere. I do the exact same thing with my uncle.
I agree with #31. Perhaps she is fat, but he is dating her. I'm not a chubby chaser but I've known some very attractive overweight people. In this society, "fat/overweight" covers such a wide range of body types that the term is almost useless. His response should have been, "I love her just the way she is". Sounds like he's got some " 'splainin " to do.
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I'm with 28! My guy friends would have the biggest crush on what used to be my hot older sister. As soon as she opened her mouth, they guys were in disgust. They would say, "Damn, she's hot! But only when she doesn't talk." I would laugh so hard. Now, she is bigger and can't lose the weight. And she lives near Laguna Beach; therefore, it's hard for her to get a date. I, personally, lucked out! My boyfriend is almost too good looking (he's been approached for modeling since he was 16 and would turn it down, every time) and has a fantastic personality. He's a rare find (even though he found me) but I don't take a moment for granted.
Precisely! We get to choose from the boyfriend being a complete ass (with OP having a hint of insecurities in her looks) or the boyfriend has never stood up to anyone, ever. I rather be with someone who would stick up for me than just agree with everyone's words and thoughts, just so he can "fit in" and feel good about himself.
71, I thought people don't assume on this site, at least that's what another commenter put on another FML. My sister poked fun of me for being fat/over weight nearly my entire life. Then, in 2009, my second stomach was discovered, had to be removed, in 2010, due to cancerous cells, and both vagus nerves were severed. That gave me gastroparesis (I'm never hungry and I puke up everything I eat and drink) and there is no cure. I'm allergic to every anti-nausea medication (I get seizures from any of them). The last time I spoke to my sister, she told me that she doesn't want to have a relationship with me since I'm dying. It's too hard on her and my family. Now I'm 7 months pregnant and way underweight. She puts on her Facebook that she's waiting for me to blow up again since I'm pregnant. The doctors have prepared me to die right after my son is born or no later than August. I'm fighting for my life to get this baby into this world so he can have a much better life than I had. I can say whatever the hell I want and so can you. But if you think I post something mean, I have a right to. Furthermore, I'm going to gloat for the last few months of my life seeing as I only have a 10% chance of living past my child is born and even a less chance of ever holding him in my arms. The only other thing I do, besides being hooked up to nutrient bags (all of the nutrients to only to my son) all the time and get meds pumped into me 5 times a day, I have to write a diary to my kid so he won't turn to drugs and alcohol when he finds out that I knew I would be dead once he was born. I also found out two weeks after I was told I was pregnant that I have cancer that's also untreatable. Now everyone knows my story and thanks for reminding me of why I should talk about the good things in my life. My family considers me dead already so I only have a few emotions left.
Wow, your story is so heartfelt! I can't believe how some people on here have no compassion, as well as your sister. It sounds like she got her ten-fold karma these days. You are a very strong individual, your son was made out of love and you're giving the love of your life a part of you that he can nurture and cherish when you're gone. Thank you for sharing your story and it just goes to show that you never know what someone is going through and I would've never thought you were dealing with this just from your original comment. Regardless I still understood where you're coming from and you are not mean! Keep your head up, stay strong sister and continue to say and feel whatever you want! Thank you for making my day and taking me outside of my own self pity, I have been very ungrateful lately and this is exactly what I needed!
Should have walked out and told him that YOU could do better, and dumped his ass.
If you personally have a problem with your weight, you can change it. Unfortunately you have more trouble changing your boyfriend...