By marmarr - 15/05/2011 05:20 - United States
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Actually its not. It was not meant to slam gay people. It was meant merely to point out that terms like "wears the pants" and "has the penis in the relationship" are actually not true. While lesbians might not always rely on toys to pleasure one another, there is nothing wrong with stating that gay men both have penises and thus would both be the "men" in the relationship. The ignorance comes from people who feel the need to define power play in a relationship by genitals or male specific clothing. Because lesbians do not have penises and would have to rely on toys for certain bedroom play, the point would become invalid. I am sorry if you thought I was being offensive when really I was just pointing out the rather satirical belief that in this day and age heterosexual ideas of masculinity and domination have any place in the construct of relationships.
That's what you get for trying to lie to get out of something; it comes back and bites you in the butt.
that's lame. you should of been straight up with your friend to begin with... or invited them along
Wow, YDI, I hope you feel like crap for lying. I hope your friend decides that your not a friend.
I've had situations like this where my friend only hung out with her boyfriend and I ended the friendship because it was always at the last minute she decided she wanted to stay home. I have also had friends who when I mention doing something with my boyfriend they want to come too or say "oh no problem I don't mind if he comes." Or they start crying because I am being a terrible friend and "hoes before bros." The situation with the crying friend was when my boyfriend showed up last minute to take me to a concert and the thing she had planned was going to the grocery store. I don't ditch friends who I make plans with unless its for something important--surprise tickets or my boyfriend (who lives out of town) comes back for a surprise weekend. She should have been straight with her friend.