Today, I noticed quite a few scars on one of my coworker's legs. I pulled her aside and told her that self-harm was never the answer, and if she needed to talk I was always there. Turns out she's just clumsy and trips a lot. FML
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Wild Nights Out
Last call, bad decisions and 3 a.m. texts you'll regret until noon. Cheers.
Today, I tripped over a kid at work. She was sitting on the floor with her legs sticking out into the walkway. Her mom caused a scene, accusing me of doing it on purpose. FML
Today, my overweight colleague twisted his ankle. He's pretty self-conscious about his weight, but I had a brain-fart and told him he shouldn't try to put too much weight on it. His feelings are more hurt than his ankle now. FML
Today, at work, my manager fell in front of an entire lobby full of people on a wet floor. I'm the only one who burst out laughing. Turns out she has a broken arm. FML
Today, I was walking down the street on my way to work, when an old lady's walking stick caught my leg and sent me crashing to the ground. She apologised for the accident and watched me stumble to my feet. I said not to worry. Just as I turned to leave, I could swear a smirk crept over her face. FML
Today, I tripped and fell going up the stairs, not once, but twice at work as I was leading customers through our building. I actually got bruises. FML
Today, at work at a store, I was sitting on the floor stocking a bottom shelf. A woman in a motorized cart did not see me, and ran over my hand. When I alerted her about what she had done she laughed. FML
Today, I was told I needed to start carrying bandaids with me at work because practically every day I hurt myself. FML
Today, I cut my finger deep on an envelope at work and started bleeding profusely. When I asked my co-worker for a band-aid, she told me to get back to work and stop making up excuses to try and hit on her. FML
Today, while I was telling a friend she needs to be more careful about getting hurt, I dislocated and sprained my thumb. She then laughed at me and said, "Yes, I will." FML
Today, a man stopped me on the street. He said the stretch marks on my thighs looked like cuts, and asked me if I self-harmed. Before I was able to politely respond "No", he said, "I mean, I can see why you would." FML
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whysobeachy 37
Making assumptions is a stupid thing to do, but then, if she DID inflict self-harm, it's not like she'd admit it that easily.
awesumous 16
Don't let this one awkward misunderstanding stop you in the future. Keep doing this and one day you may save a life. Btw you're a really good person for caring
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Saraishi 25
Some people don't heal easily and any scrape, bug bite, can leave a scar for a long time. Your heart seemed to be in the right place but don't jump to conclusions, especially on such a sensitive subject.
Emmy0806 6
YDI
TheSir022 9
at least you showed concern for her well being, and even though it may seen awkward, I'm sure she appreciated that.
Villy23 12
I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here and assuming you weren't as condescending in person as you came off to me in this post. It sounds like your heart was in the right place, but in future maybe you should just offer to be an ear if they need it instead of jumping to conclusions. I'm both extremely clumsy (I mean, my boyfriend sometimes gets legitimately concerned that someone will assumer he's abusing me because I'm generally covered in bruises) and I have seld-harmed in the past. Regardless of whice one was the cause of the injury, I would never take kindly to someone just butting in and telling me "this is wrong" without even trying to talk to me about it first. I applaud the fact that you cared enough, and PLEASE don't lose that, but maybe work on how you go about it.
Villy23 12
Sorry, I see now that you did offer an ear as well. I was distracted the first time I read it.
GhostFox 34
I tried to put this in a more delicate way, but it resulted in a very muddled statement that was hard to pull any meaning from. So here it is simply. Telling people to ignore recurring injuries that look deliberate because it "isn't there business" puts abuse victims and, yes, self harmers, at a far greater risk. Many abuse victims don't go to the authorities because of fear of many things- they won't be believed, no one cares, the injuries aren't obvious enough, etc- and being approached about to can in fact give them the courage to take action on the matter by assuring them that people DO care. Self harmers, on the other hand, are at substantially higher risk of making a successful suicide attempt than non-harmers. Stats range from 8x more likely to 20x more likely, but there is data to support the connection. Once again, while it can be embarrassing for some, it can be a literal life saver for others. So while OP didn't approach the matter in the best way, telling people to be inactive about this sort of thing is... Well, dangerous.
wizmor 5
good on you for caring
jvanevery 19
need to work on those amateur therapist skills
JigglesGirl 19
I'm EXTREMELY clumsy and I have marks on my face, arms, legs, and sometimes boobs or stomach and people are always thinking I'm being abused. I tend to laugh it iff and tell them that I'm clumsy, followed by a recent clumsy moment
badonkadonks46 3
I know this comes from a good place but you sound kinda like an asshole.
kevinsagirl2323 8
while I appreciate your concern unless you're close to her saying something was not a good idea