By sal - United States - Rexburg
  Today, I had to finally accept that my husband is too large for me. Normally, it'd be a bragging point, except my private parts can't handle it. After several infections brought on after vaginal tearing, I'm having to choose between being in perpetual pain, or giving up my sex life. FML
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By  iamyourmum  |  1

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  Cian_1  |  28

I personally don't see why people do anal. I mean, when you think about it, its revolting! You're shoving your penis somewhere where there will be particles (or more) of shit, who in there right mind wants that on their penis. :P

  Firuzzy  |  10

17 It's not too different to vaginal, blood comes out of there every month....

  Feverrotes  |  15

Well, typically, a BJ after an anal session is like a routine. Guy shoves it in the ass, particles come attached, gal sucks them off.

  vcapelo  |  19

Actually the back one is not tighter 18. The ringmuscle has the ability to strecht and I know from personal experience that anal can be much more loose than vaginal if you just do it right. I'm not saying they have to do anal but I think it's a posibility. Also if you have watched porn, you would know If you train hard, it's posible to shove the largest and weirdest stuff up there (not that porn is real life, but it's just a thought).

  CzechIsBack  |  15

89 - while the anal sphincters can stretch enough to allow even for a hand to be inserted, as it can during rectal surgery or some more "involved" sexual practices, the vagina can stretch enough to allow for childbirth and is far more accommodating than the anus. The OP should try much more foreplay and slow stretching and it'll fit. Hate to say it guys, no man is so big that it doesn't fit ;)

  Dylan94_fml  |  8

And how long does it take during birth before the woman gets dilated enough for a baby to be able to fit through it? Anal is the most sensible option if both OP and her husband are comfortable with it, when I first read it I thought OP meant length not width, in which case anal would definitely be the preferred option to reduce injury. Obviously wear protection and all that blah blah


The penis can reach the cervix if large enough. And it actually only takes about 10 min I think for the cervix to dilate fully but regardless it doesn't matter what the cervix does because you will never get the cervix to dilate during sex. It requires hormones given off during labour.

  Calyx_fml  |  21

My friend has the same problem with his girlfriend. I had the opposite problem with a former girlfriend. She was too cavernous for me to feel anything. In both cases anal was the solution.

Use a female condom! It's a lot cleaner. Make sure you poop before sex, do lots of foreplay with fingers and thumbs to loosen you up. He can thumb you while going down on you. Use lube and clean up immediately afterwards.

Also, it's best if you lie on your back or side. If its doggie style then Santorum can drip out onto your vagina. This is less of a problem if you use female condoms though. With the right practice anal feels as good as vaginal (so women I've done it with tell me)

  AndriaLeeB  |  5

Oh yeah, it definitely can reach it obviously, but as you said, it would never go in. And I don't know where you got 10 minutes from, I've never heard if a 10 minute labor, though I'm sure women would appreciate that.

  HollyDolly660  |  8

As a female, I can honestly say I would never want anything in or around my bum. OP, you just gotta start stretching yourself more. If the skanks at my school can get a fist up there, you can get a penis up there too.

  Lludes  |  5

206- you obviously have never had children it takes many hours for the cervix to dilate to 10cm. Unless of course you've had previous children it may take less time, but never 10 minutes.

  onlychildFTW  |  33

Oh yeah you can be to big. It can only stretch so much. And some guys are pretty big. The anus can stretch a lot more though. As long as you start slow and use some from of lube of course. So you can always try that. But if that isn't your thing stay away from getting infections. That stuffs nasty OP and it could be in your best interests to not have them.

I really hope you can figure out something OP!

  downtime  |  12

Who wouldn't have thought you could be too big? Pretty obvious. I kind of want to say YDI because it sounds like prior to this you were part of the "bigger is better" fanclub.
As to the guy suggesting anal, there are a series of bigger complications than "will it fit" that come with shoving oversized objects in your ass...

  emilyjgraham  |  34

I'm just wondering which way is he too big? girth or length? because the length can be solved by him not going in full and the girth (they've probably tried this) you could possibly try going up through toys slowly and eventually match his girth, yes it takes a long time but maybe the vagina will naturally stretch to accommodate his size. maybe not, I'm just giving some ideas :)

  DjeePee  |  24

Wasn't the longest penis in the world around 40 centimeters? Anyway, you can put a lot of things in a vagina, but it's not an endless hole.

OP, here's my tip: search on the interwebs after different sexual positions. There are positions that are perfect for a small guy, positions that are ideal for an average guy and also positions for holy-shit-your-big guys. Also, you don't need to put his entire penis inside you.

  TheDrifter  |  23

Even a moderate length penis is a no go for a lot of women if it's too thick. From experience, average length, with the girth of a beer can WILL get you refused by some women the moment they see it.

  sens3sfailing  |  24

I thought there was a too big. I am too big for my girlfriend. It can also be seen as she is too small because she is a virgin and is tight and doesn't masturbait at all so getting it bigger will be a long time. I am not anything extraordinary though, I am longer than average by a decent amount, but it isn't like I am some sort of sex god. I am a virgin too and wish my penis was smaller so I could make love to my girlfriend. I don't care about the size if it means that I am able to show the one I care the most about that part of how much I love her.

  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

Not unless OP is abnormal in some way. I don't know how "wide" he is but I have serious doubts it's more than 10 cm. That's the standard diameter for delivering a baby vaginally.

OP, take it slow and use a lubricant and you'll stretch to fit. Perhaps you should discuss with your gynecologist if it's really not happening.

By  ByronJess  |  17

There are actually kits on the market to help slowly stretch you out so that your partner can fit more easily inside you. I'm not saying they're painless, but it might be something to look into.

  downtime  |  12

I'd be wondering what the hell I was doing in a strangers house. Who walks into rooms and finds random girls in there anyway? What sort of shit are you into...

By  Iniezian  |  18

Don't worry, it's now commonly accepted that a lot of men are simply too large. There are now treatments, including penis reduction medication, and in extreme cases, surgery.

  Iniezian  |  18

Sometimes, a man has to if he wants to get laid. Seriously, our society attaches great importance to a big penis as part of manhood, but a penis that's too big is even worse than one that's too small.

  Somefruits  |  24

That was probably for a specific condition. There are a couple of medical conditions where women physically cannot stretch, or their hymens are ''indestructible'' (they can't break naturally, and sex is very painful, it's called an imperforate hymen).