Today, I got the guts to call my dad for the first time in nine years. He said he "almost didn't remember" he "had another daughter." Another? FML
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Thanksgiving
Questions about your love life, a burnt turkey and the cousin who knows everything: Thanksgiving, a contact sport.
Today, my father called me for the first time in two weeks since I moved away. Excited, I answered the phone. It was a mistake. He thought he'd called my sister. FML
Today, I got a missed call from my dad, who hasn't talked to me in months and has vowed not to have anything to do with me. I called him back excitedly and apologized for missing his call, and we had a 20-second conversation about how his phone accidentally dialed my number. FML
Today, I saw my dad for the first time in almost five years, at his funeral. FML
Today, my dad introduced me to my half-sister. He'd only recently found out that he had another daughter by another woman, and had only just met her. She and I have been in the same class in school for the past three years. FML
Today, I found out that the man I called grandpa for 40 years is really my dad. My drunk aunt spilled the beans. Her exact words were, "My dad is a better dad to you than he EVER was to me! You never wondered why he treated you better than his other grandchildren? You're his son!" FML
Today, I brought a boy home for the first time, only to have my dad ask him what his mother's maiden name was. When he answered, my dad exclaimed, "Oh yeah! I think I dated her in high school. I could be your father!" FML
Today, my estranged, alcoholic father decided to tell me I have a sister. After 30 minutes of him describing how beautiful she is, how much we look alike, and how she has lived one town away from me her entire life, I was excited to the point of tears. Too bad she died a year ago. Thanks dad. FML
Today, my father contacted me for the first time in close to 2 months. The first thing he did was ask if I wanted to buy some weed. FML
Today, I went to visit my dad for the first time in over a year, as I have been studying for my Master's degree in history halfway across the world. The first thing he said to me? "So, gotten a real job yet?" FML
Today, I contacted my biological father, after not speaking to him for some years, as we had a very strained relationship. I received an automated response. It's probably the best conversation we have ever had. FML
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TJammah 0
let his other daughter take care of his future nursing home expenses
Jewelofagal 2
I'm sorry that he has turned out to be just a "sperm donor" rather than a Dad. The good thing is that you know about his character (or lack thereof) and can look to other people to provide the "fatherly" attributes he has failed to provide.
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Comments (85)
imright24 0
9 years? He could easily have another daughter, or 2, or 3. Doesn't make him an asshole or any other name I see here.
ImaginaryFoe 1
Saying "I almost forgot you" to your child most definitely makes you an arse. OP, are you a boy? That's really the only way the last line has any potency.
lotuspod 0
well it could go either way she could be a bitch for not calling him for 9 years, and would any of you wait around for someone to pick up the phone to say hey after 9 years? OMG not another daughter because having 2 kids is just so horrible.
xoCOURTNIEox 0
get the f**k over it you whiny bitch ! problem solved :)
5t3ff1k4h 47
14 - You don't know that OP is only one of two kids. For all you know, there could be ten. Because of the lack of contact, and with that many kids (this is just an example...) it's easy to "forget" something like that. There's nothing really I can say in OP's defense in that she didn't call him for 9 years. I was going to say (farfetched, I know) that she was on a missionary thing in Africa or something, but there are still ways to contact him. :/
lotuspod 0
yea I said it could go either way either hers or his fault but both could be the blame
5t3ff1k4h 47
I was commenting more on the fact you assumed the father only had two kids.
negrito48 0
WTF
Perry85 42
I did the same with my father....that didn't turn out so well so I gave up.
AssDan 0
I don't think you should be overly surprised about things in your dads life, such as other children, if you haven't talked to him in 9 YEARS! YDI you're an ass.
Telinaa 0
I haven't spoken to my father in 5 years. Though, my fathers a drunken pussy, who doesn't give a shit about me or my step brother. I tried to call him 2 years ago, and he said he didn't want to see nor talk to me. IMO, it's the fathers responsibility to call the child, as he is said "authority" or whatever other word I could have used there. Try not to be such a judgemental, insentitive dick, as you probably don't understand what it's like. Have a good day. (:
Heroin_bob 0
He's a douchebag there is no reason for him to forget about any of his kids.
macgirl21 0
Are you serious? SOMETHING had to happen to make him not be in the OP's life right? so after nine years he moved on an created a new life for himself an probably wanted to put the whole hurt/mess behind him. why is tht so bad? *maybe I'm cynical bc I had a horrible relationship with my dad.lol
ImaginaryFoe 1
I don't understand why a horrible relationship with your father would put you on OP's father's side. I have children. Should they turn out to be wretched miseries when they get older, I still can't imagine I'd want to forget them. Of course, I'm not a terrible parent who would not bother to call my kids in a 9-year time span.
wtfjess 10
Maybe OP hadn't talked to her dad in 9 years because he is abusive, alcoholic, etc. Like my dad. I haven't talked to him for almost a year now because whenever he calls he's drunk and yelling at me.
macgirl21 0
honestly AFTER 9 yrs you expected him to remember? I mean SOMETHING had to happen that he wasn't in your life so why would he remember you?
haha89 0
Are you kidding me, of course he should remember OP.
Telinaa 0
^ Agree. There is ABSOLUTELY NO reason for a parent to forget their child, EVER. No matter what the reason may be.
jayrph1123 1
hey, F'em! it's his loss. don't let the fact that he's a shitty parent f up your life.
Sonfang 19
It's OP's fault for not calling, hell my dad plays about forgetting me even if it's been a day or two..doesn't mean he's a bad dad, she could have been a brat and left on bad terms. So just because the dad "can't remember" doesn't mean he's a "bad" dad.
jayrph1123 1
what??? remembering you have a child is an important step in parenting.
Telinaa 0
45 - It is bad parenting. Get your facts straight.
Sonfang 19
#59-Not necessarily apparently she's old enough to have left and live away from him. As well as make her own decisions on when to call him. She could have left after they had a falling out, there's no facts presented in this FML other than she hadn't called in 9 years, and her dad claims to have had another daughter. So don't bitch about getting facts straight when none have been presented.
The_grumpy_bear 0
It's not an FML because the dad has another daughter, it's an FML because the dad hardly remembers OP. That's sad and I'm sure there are reasons why they haven't talked in so long but that's no excuse to forget your own children. fyl OP
Telinaa 0
The OP clearly stated that she was unhappy by the fact that he has another daughter. Notice it says "Another?" at the end. It's most likely both though, not just that.