By BNLM - 09/03/2010 01:11 - United States
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1st should lock your doors at night. I got robbed of my virginity as well as my laptop
@9 usually aren't these 'oaths' taken because the people have been forces by their parents so I wouldn't be so harsh on them breaking it. Reading the fml made me think it maybe wasn't the op losing their virginity that was the problem but the person or something like that.
Purity rings are for people who want to take their views on sex and broadcast them to the world, as if the world gives a fuck. I support waiting until you're ready and/or are with the right one, but marriage is really just a financial contract, and you're putting way more importance in it than you should. Worst of all, though, is that you're taking part in a popular subculture for no other reason than you want to fit in.
You may claim your values align, but when you get down to it, those values usually consist of being a prude and being proud of it. Do you masturbate? Watch porn? Maybe fool around with your friends? Probably not, because you believe you need to be married to a man who'll then take care of those nasty urges for you. You're basically destroying everything women have worked for for the past 90 years. Good job.
I don't think you understand. I have nothing against people waiting for marriage/for the right one. I'd be hypocritical if I did. It's the rings themselves I have problems with. People put way too much importance on them, and usually the people who wear the rings (not people who wait) are prude or trying to 'fit in' or are pressured into it in some fashion. Maybe my data is skewed, but I'm usually very good at detecting the true reasons for bullshit like this.
Weakling? Not keeping your oath? You only get a limited time on this earth. Why not try being alive while you are still young enough to enjoy it? This is no FYL or YDI. This is just choosing to live in this world. Regret it or not at least you have done something you can learn from. Living >>> Judgement from moralistic posers on the Internet.
Well, this is just my opinion, but we don't really know what the story is here... I appreciate, and respect, that you may not wish to have sex before marriage; however, this person might not feel so strongly about it, and personally, I don't see the problem, if they are in love. just my opinion though...
You claimed that you are bi. Getting pregnant or spreading disease isn't a problem if you decide to slam clams with another chick. So if you have sex with a woman your chances of getting pregnant, or contracting an STI are essentially 0%. Even if you decide to have sex with a guy condoms are 99.99% effective; birth control pills are also 99% effective, and both you and your partner can be tested for free at your local health center. Assuming both you and your male partner used birth control your chances of getting pregnant are: 0.1%*0.001% = 0.0001% That's one ten thousandth of a percent. Just as a point of comparison it's more likely you will be struck by lighting, a probability of 0.00016; then it is that you will become pregnant while taking birth control and using condoms. The previous poster is correct. You're values consist of being a prude; and then flaunting your prudishness to a world that doesn't care. You are irrationally denying a basic biological urge, and a major source of fulfillment in your life because of puritanical social pressure from your parents, church, or school. These people believe that you should be pressured to live a less fulfilling life because they insist on blindly following the writings of a: 2,000 year old, Jewish, zombie carpenter. But it's you're life, live it however you want.