How do you know he hasn't been using HIS card? Maybe he helps out sometimes and let his parents know his account information, that's how my brother is. Just because it's your account, it doesn't mean you are the sole person to access it.

*Legally* the money may be shared; *morally* that doesn't excuse what the father did, not for a second. My parents are on my bank account in case something happens while I'm at school and they need to deal with the bank. Nevertheless, I earned every cent in that account MYSELF, and I would be furious if my parents took it out and spent it for themselves. People may say that my parents raised me and I owe them, and I do owe them a lot, but there is a difference between owing your parents/paying them back and having your parents STEAL your money for their own selfish, homewrecking purposes.

As a parent you sort of have the responsibility to care of the child, it's sort of illegal to leave the child without what they need. If you don't want to take on the challenge of having a kid, don't have one. A child shouldn't have to OWE the parents for raising them, you should be thankful if they were good parents and not crack heads or didn't abuse you mentally, physically, or sexually, but it still doesn't mean you owe them for NOT doing those things. It's like paying every person in the world for not breaking the law, sure it's an incentive but it should also be common sense to try and take care of your responsibilities the best you can.