By theblackrose23 - 06/09/2013 12:10 - United States - Lansing

Today, I found out my grandfather died via Facebook, because apparently both my father and my aunt think posting a status about it immediately rather than calling family is the thing to do. FML
I agree, your life sucks 48 107
You deserved it 2 834

Same thing different taste

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Both your father and aunt are insensitive idiots. Sorry for your loss OP.

That is so insensitive. "Hey look everyone, Grandpa died! #YOLO" I'm sorry for your loss, OP. I truly am.


Both your father and aunt are insensitive idiots. Sorry for your loss OP.

TheDrifter 23

Insensitive assholes, certainly. Sadly, Facebook likely spreads the word more quickly and completely than phone calls these says.

Damian95 16

That's modern technology for ya. Its faster than we are.

This is proof that people have lost etiquette due to social media. OP, I'm sorry for your loss. You have every right to be upset. Quicker or not, there is no reason for a family member and/or close family friend to be informed of a death.

vencku 13

I think this news would be painful no matter the mode of communication. FaceBook is simply a very efficient way to inform everyone. Half a century ago, people would have found it rude that you phoned rather than visited to tell the news in person. Times change. It's not the end of the world.

#29. I kind of agree. Yes, a phone call would have been nice. But Op is not the only one who lost someone. The aunt and Op's father lost a parent. Op should be a little more considerate to the fact that they might not have wanted to call people at the moment, because they are also upset.

Or perhaps Facebook is the way OPs family members connect with eachother, that is what it was originally intended for. To connect with people, I mean. Maybe they were letting all their family members know without having to call every single one of them?

I'd say the normal thing to do when you have lost a family member is to call everyone.. and take comfort in that. Isn't that the meaning of family? Taking care of each other in a time like this, not just conveying news efficiently? I hate receiving news about my family via text messages or facebook.. it's so un-personal.

CallMeMcFeelii 13

I think it should be like the way it was half a century ago. It's a lot more personal when someone tells you news such as this in person. It may be rough for the person telling you, but in my opinion that's the way it should be. Especially someone like your grandma or grandpa. I can understand if my mom would call saying some cousin I hardly knew just passed away, but for someone that close to me I would appreciate it a lot more hearing it first hand, rather than over the phone and worst of all, over the ******* Internet.

In my opinion, it is much better to personally tell those closest to you of a death of a friend or family. Speaking from experience it is so much better to be there for them in person then for them to find out via proxy.

AppleJuiceBox 10

That's how I found out my mom got married.

Sorry! My comment was to end with, "via a social media site."

While I agree that Facebook is a bit more efficient, and that some of you do have a point about the fact that maybe this is the easiest way to communicate, I still think calling or telling someone in person is better. Not only would I NOT be prepared or expecting that kind of news from a Facebook post, if I was alone when I saw this, I would be devastated, plus have no one to turn to for comfort. Even over the phone, the caller can brace me for what they're going to tell me and offer a little comfort, as well as explain what exactly happened. Also, in my opinion, it's bad form for everyone on someone's Facebook, even those who had no idea who the person was, to find out about a death before the family is notified.

That is so insensitive. "Hey look everyone, Grandpa died! #YOLO" I'm sorry for your loss, OP. I truly am.

Just because they posted a facebook status doesn't mean it was worded like that.

No, but considering all the asinine posts on Facebook, I wouldn't be surprised.

Well since it was the aunt and father posting it, it would have been their dad

RecklessJellyBea 7

That's just so disrespectful. Always allow the family to know of the death before you plaster it all over Facebook. No one wants to hear grandpa died with a crappy status update! FYL, OP. Some people are just idiots.

Exactly. I found out about a relatives death by my aunt. And my dad decided to let everyone on Facebook he was having spinal surgery before he told his daughter. Some people are just arseholes

teamlightskin 14

Sorry for your loss OP, that was very rude and inconsiderate of your family. I wouldnt know if i would even be able to hold my composure after finding out that way!

Yep, this generation is poisoned by social media very sad but true.

This generation is such a loose term. I believe her parents are born in the early 70s so they are not part of our generation.

TheDrifter 23

I prefer the term "this millennia", it's more comprehensive, including not just a single generation, but all who have embraced the modern ways.

So... Everyone from ~1000CE onwards? I think you meant century

Sorry for your loss OP, that was very insensitive of them. You shouldn't of had to learn about his passing from Facebook of all places.

Life_is_FML 22

"Yo my granddaddy died today #swag #yolo" is what I can picture young idiots posting. That is one reason I hate Facebook. Sorry for your loss, OP

May your grandpas soul find peace. Why do I have a feeling the this going to become a norm when my generation grows up, I hope I'm wrong.

Imagine this scenario but with OP using Google Glass in a public place. Behold the future!

I'm sorry for your loss. I hate people that post important news on Facebook before telling others first. Some people need to be told on their own and given time to take it in.

And sorry for your loss Op. May your Grandfather rest in peace, and may God bless you and your family through this difficult time.

perdix 29

#33, well, those people can go to Hell. Of course, if they don't believe in God, they don't believe in Hell, so everybody can be happy!