By theblackrose23 - United States - Lansing
Today, I found out my grandfather died via Facebook, because apparently both my father and my aunt think posting a status about it immediately rather than calling family is the thing to do. FML
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  AKGirlinSD  |  20

This is proof that people have lost etiquette due to social media. OP, I'm sorry for your loss. You have every right to be upset. Quicker or not, there is no reason for a family member and/or close family friend to be informed of a death.

  vencku  |  13

I think this news would be painful no matter the mode of communication. FaceBook is simply a very efficient way to inform everyone. Half a century ago, people would have found it rude that you phoned rather than visited to tell the news in person. Times change. It's not the end of the world.

  queerdragon  |  20

#29. I kind of agree. Yes, a phone call would have been nice. But Op is not the only one who lost someone. The aunt and Op's father lost a parent. Op should be a little more considerate to the fact that they might not have wanted to call people at the moment, because they are also upset.

  BronayPonay  |  6

Or perhaps Facebook is the way OPs family members connect with eachother, that is what it was originally intended for. To connect with people, I mean.
Maybe they were letting all their family members know without having to call every single one of them?

  Himlagott  |  14

I'd say the normal thing to do when you have lost a family member is to call everyone.. and take comfort in that. Isn't that the meaning of family? Taking care of each other in a time like this, not just conveying news efficiently? I hate receiving news about my family via text messages or facebook.. it's so un-personal.

  CallMeMcFeelii  |  13

I think it should be like the way it was half a century ago. It's a lot more personal when someone tells you news such as this in person. It may be rough for the person telling you, but in my opinion that's the way it should be. Especially someone like your grandma or grandpa. I can understand if my mom would call saying some cousin I hardly knew just passed away, but for someone that close to me I would appreciate it a lot more hearing it first hand, rather than over the phone and worst of all, over the fucking Internet.


In my opinion, it is much better to personally tell those closest to you of a death of a friend or family. Speaking from experience it is so much better to be there for them in person then for them to find out via proxy.

  nature_girl_08  |  14

While I agree that Facebook is a bit more efficient, and that some of you do have a point about the fact that maybe this is the easiest way to communicate, I still think calling or telling someone in person is better. Not only would I NOT be prepared or expecting that kind of news from a Facebook post, if I was alone when I saw this, I would be devastated, plus have no one to turn to for comfort. Even over the phone, the caller can brace me for what they're going to tell me and offer a little comfort, as well as explain what exactly happened. Also, in my opinion, it's bad form for everyone on someone's Facebook, even those who had no idea who the person was, to find out about a death before the family is notified.

By  RecklessJellyBea  |  7

That's just so disrespectful. Always allow the family to know of the death before you plaster it all over Facebook. No one wants to hear grandpa died with a crappy status update! FYL, OP. Some people are just idiots.

  judea95  |  16

Exactly. I found out about a relatives death by my aunt. And my dad decided to let everyone on Facebook he was having spinal surgery before he told his daughter. Some people are just arseholes

  perdix  |  29

#33, well, those people can go to Hell. Of course, if they don't believe in God, they don't believe in Hell, so everybody can be happy!