Today, I found out my grandfather died via Facebook, because apparently both my father and my aunt think posting a status about it immediately rather than calling family is the thing to do. FML
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Dead leaves, the first cold of the season and an umbrella flipped inside out: fall, the season of grace.
Today, my grandmother died. No one called me to let me know she passed. I found out because people kept writing RIP on her Facebook wall. My siblings and I weren't even mentioned in her obituary with the other grandchildren, but they did remember to mention her dog. FML
Today, I texted a friend offering my condolences over the death of his grandfather. He hadn't been told his grandfather had died yet. FML
Today, I saw selfies of my aunt and her friends on Facebook having a great time. They took the pictures at my mother's funeral last week. FML
Today, I found an obituary clipping on my kitchen table. It was for my grandpa. No one told me he died. FML
Today, I heard that my stepmom’s mother passed away… via a public Facebook post made by my dad. FML
Today, my mother messaged me via Facebook me to say that my father had died. They knew since the start of the year but didn't bother to tell me. I live 10 minutes from the hospital he was in. FML
Today, I decided it would be pretty amusing to press the "Like" button on everyone's status on Facebook without reading them just to get on peoples' nerves. After re-reading them later, I found out one of them said "I MISS YOU SOO MUCH GRANDMOM. RIP". I liked that her grandmother died. FML
Today, I mentioned on Facebook that I'll be out of town over the weekend, because I am attending my grandmother's funeral. I soon got comments saying "Pics or it didn't happen" and "Killed her for the inheritance, eh?" followed by a solitary "LOLLL". FML
Today, I looked at my father's Facebook for the first time in a month to see a status saying, "Making wedding plans!" Really? When was he planning on telling his own daughter? FML
Today, I found out that my mom and dad got a divorce. They didn't tell me, they just changed their relationship status on Facebook. FML
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darwinism 30
Both your father and aunt are insensitive idiots. Sorry for your loss OP.
Welshite 40
That is so insensitive. "Hey look everyone, Grandpa died! #YOLO" I'm sorry for your loss, OP. I truly am.
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Comments (96)
Himlagott 14
Been there... I'm so very sorry for you. I found out about the passing of a family member three weeks after we lost her, by a call from my uncle who had read her obituary and was completely shocked. Turns out my cousin had been notified about what happened first, but didn't pass on the "news" to the rest of the family because he thought everyone knew and he was apparently too busy playing video games to actually check if we really knew... We all missed the funeral.
RedPillSucks 33
Borg Nation.... I guess it could have been worse. OP could have learned about it via FML.
KainMoogle 21
Oh, come on OP! If they get 500000 likes, they can bring them back to life!
asherm 15
Sorry for your loss, and how you found out
clh3031 6
I am very sorry for your loss, OP. Finding out a loved one has passed away is very hard regardless of the way you are notified. While I can not stand Facebook and refuse to be apart of the drama it oozes, I don't see an issue with what your family members posted. Now this is just my opinion (and you know what people say about those) but I do not believe it should be the sole responsibilitie of one (or a small few) to notify the whole family, especially when they are grieving themselves and not thinking clearly. Times have changed and as families grow they move further apart and Facebook seems to be a quick way to let them know and help with the notification process, either by seeing it themselves or helping call other members of the family that might not log in as much. When my husband was in a motorcycle accident, I only had the time to call his 15 year old daughter while I was heading to the hospital who then posted it on Facebook. I am very thankful she did because I was in no condition to call people and his parents nearly beat me to the hospital. Having them there with me when I first seen him was a blessing as I don't think I could have handled it alone. Sometime the quicker you find out the better and Facebook seems to spread news quick.
ratorr2 23
I agree. It was probably the quickest way they knew to notify the entire family. Instead of making phone call after phone call to tell everyone in a time they may not feel like talking to everyone, a detailed message on FB will notify everyone with the same details all at once. I would do the same thing, especially since I don't know everyone's phone number. It's easy to make the message only to those you want to inform. My family had also grown apart and I had lost touch with many of them until I found them again on FB. I probably never would have seen many of them again otherwise. FB really isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be depending on who you 'friend'.
queerdragon 20
I agree. When we lost my cousin to cancer last year, I found out on FB before I got the call. I then called my aunt to figure out what they needed done to help. My aunt was inconsolable and could not talk on the phone without bursting into tears. My cousin was 14 and the only child my aunt had. People got onto her case about posting it online, feeling entitled to a call. However, people who heard about if on FB spread the word to those without FB pages and so most everyone in the family knew by the end of the week, if not the first day. As bad as it sounds, FB is a valid form of communication for a lot of people, it cuts down the time in half. I would rather find out someone died and have time to go to the funeral and support my family then to not know at all.
mullet3388 16
sorry to hear of your loss. thats a ****** up way of thinking on their part
joopjoop 19
I had a friend recently find out both of her grandparents died in a car accident by someone unrelated posting a link on fb to the news article :( people have lost simple courtesies via Facebook.
Catteee 11
Same thing happened to me with my grandmother - a cousin sent me a message of condolence before my parents were able to make it into town to tell me in person. Worst way to find out.
starcravingmad 5
Similar situation happened in my family. My great uncle passed away a few years ago from cancer, and my mom wrote a status on facebook about it after waiting all day before saying anything. Unfortunately, this is how my cousin found out her dad had died. It was an extremely shitty situation, but my great uncle's wife had failed to call his kids within 6 hours of him passing, even though they had known he was on death's doorstep and were on full alert to answer calls. We had all assumed that his own kids would've been the very first to have been told.
TommyToes414 6
That happened to me with my Nana.... I found out through Facebook about ten minutes before my aunt came to tell me. I know how that feels and it sucks big time. I am really sorry that it happened to you as well. No one deserves to find out that way :(