By mastel07 - 10/12/2014 12:59 - United Kingdom - Stevenage
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Hair is not a definitive factor, YDI as far as I'm concerned, he'd be an amazing husband if he got over this at all. A sense of security in regards to commitment is key in any companionship, you may have burned the bridge between you and your husband.
It's an understandable reaction to be upset if you had no idea you had that color hair on your head and thought it might have been another women's but throwing his stuff out of the house is a little much. I hope you guys worked it out though sense it was just a misunderstanding.
If you found something that you knew (or thought) didn't belong to you, or any recent visitors, you would get suspicious too. I personally wouldn't react by throwing my partner out of the house, but who is to say there wasn't already tension or stress and this was just the top of it?
Yeah, but the thing is... How can you demand that the husband is not freaking over the wifes behaviour, when SHE was completely freaking out over his SUPPOSED behaviour? This reminds me of this relative of mine, who treated her husband; a real cool and nice guy; always like shit. She was constantly freaking out over minor or even imagined things. And the few occasions he actually went loud, because he just could not take it anymore, he was told to "Show some restraints!". And then she was wondering why he left her... Relationships are about trust and some actions can ruin that trust completely, even if they are singular.
TBH what you did is worth divorcing over. No trust = no marriage. I'd have left you, or more likely never married you.