By Confused - 22/08/2012 16:33 - Spain - Madrid

Today, I finally had sex with my boyfriend. I had never gotten so far with a guy, so I was really nervous. He was careful, we tried different positions, "it was fun" and he came. I barely felt anything. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 739
You deserved it 4 404

Same thing different taste

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Foreplay or not the first time sucks for the girl it's supposed to hurt and not as beautiful as it is in books or in movies it's kind of a disappointment

starman02 12

That really sucks OP, especially that being your first time. If it helps, most first times are nothing to brag about! I agree more foreplay, the sex might be more enjoyable for you!

mzrobinson 13

Who said it had to hurt? The guy may be on the smaller side which is why she felt nothing?

Op may be unfortunate enough to have a small amount of nerve endings where it counts hence making things less pleasurable. Or her boyfriend needs to learn more about anatomy and stimulation. A larger probe helps too.

Well I guess it's better to feel nothing than to feel a lot of pain. I know girls who said they were left bleeding and sore for a couple of days after their first time.

agreed. more foreplay might help. but you could consider yourself lucky, OP. I hated m first time. It was so painful. I bled quite a bit, and was sore for days

It's not supposed to hurt, stop spreading this misinformation, everyone. It only hurts if she's too nervous and, thus, probably shouldn't be having sex, or if she has vaginismus, and, thus, probably shouldn't be having sex. If it hurts, get back to foreplay, and try again afterwards.

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chilena2020 4

The first time is never great. But sounds like u need a man with a little more to " offer". Better luck next time

Slender_Man 6

The first time is always great. That's what makes you want more sex.

62 surely your a virgin for saying that

MichellinMan 20
wildsweetchild 19

I'd say it depends. Not every girl is in pain, things are different when the guy takes time and actually knows what he's doing. With lots of care, love and all that I've listed above the first time can be truly beautiful, pleasurable and very memorable.

#113 speaks the truth. I've heard horror stories of first times, but mine was perfect. No pain, incredible amounts of pleasure and lots of love and devotion. I think you just have to be very ready and not rush yourself or be impatient for your first time. It should be special!

Can't feel anything, but of you do circles I can!

klovemachine 24

If you're asking that question, then you're doing it wrong :'O

I thought the first time you were supposed to feel. Even if it's only pain, or his schlong.

Usually you do it's painful but ops boyfriend might not be as endowed or he didn't give her his "all" so he wouldn't hurt her too much. Either way sorry op

Oh, I had no idea. I imagined it would feel uncomfortable. Well, you learn something new every day.

My first was so bad, it felt better putting a tampon in than having sex. He was v gentle though, may be why.

KeannaLove 32

If you don't know what having sex feels like, you're not old enough to be commenting on a post about it. Just saying.

58- Im 19 and I dont know what sex feels like >_>

Yeah, what if a 40 year old virgin commented on a post about sex? Wouldn't they be old enough to comment?

I'm 21 and don't know what sex feels like

KiddNYC1O 20

When do you kids start having sex nowadays?

Some 12 year olds know what sex feels like, does that mean they're old enough to comment on a thread about sex?

Ew, 12 year olds having sex. I can't even imagine people my age having sex.

sbuxsux11 8

i thumbed you up for using the word schlong. such an under used word!

Wait you can't imagine a 16 year old having sex? Or is your birthday faked on here and you are actually 12?

I still think 16 is a really young age to have sex. And yes, I am 16.

I was 19 & in a serious relationship. Honestly, I don't remember the actual sex that much, but it remember how scared I was.

Maybe he will have more to "offer" with more experience. Sounds like you two need to just get more comfortable with each other on a physical level

Foreplay would help and sharing to each other what they are into and what feels good and what doesn't.

olpally 32

Nerves always get the best of everyone usually the first time. my nervousness got to me. It gets better the more you do it.

Yeah I agree nerves do get you the first time!!

It's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean.

unless you have a super small boat in the ocean..

Length actually doesn't matter all that much because the ****** only has pleasure receptors up to 4 inches deep (which is about avg penis size). What actually does make a difference is girth.

bfsd42 20

4 inches = average?????? I don't think so.

I thought average was like 5 or 6...?