By angelisa - 21/11/2015 14:54 - United States - Yuba City
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thats moronic. Dump him OP. Dont ever sleep with someone so stupid. Murphys law says thats the one you'll break a condom with and end up with this moron as the father of your kids! Whats worse is hes probably to dumb to put the condom on correctly, ensuring the breakage
If he's too embarrassed to buy condoms, he's definitely not ready for sex.
Sorry Op but if either of you are too embarrassed to buy condoms then you are not ready for sex.
What if you have social anxiety? Some people who suffer from social anxiety disorder are often times unable to do the most basic of everyday things. I know it might seem trivial to almost everyone here, but my crippling social anxiety prevents me from being able to do a lot of things that involve even minimal social interaction, and I am not the only one with this problem... In fact, there are people who have it far worse than I do. Does that mean I, as well as others with severe social anxiety might never be ready to experience intimacy with another human being, and that we are destined to live the rest of our lifes alone? (I apologise for any spelling errors, English is not my native language.)
You know what **** you. I have extreme social anxiety for a reason. I literally am doomed to say every thought out loud against my will for the rest of my natural life. The cause is brain damage. I will never know a secret or a private thought. But I still get up and do shit that needs to be done. I suck it up and get over myself instead of using it as a bullshit excuse. If I can do it, every single person on this planet can. Get over yourself. People aren't even paying attention to you, they Dont notice your anxious. Live your life without giving a single **** about what others think. Grow up.
Yeah but you aren't everyone else 112. It's unfair to think everyone should just get over it because you manage to deal with anxiety successfully. It has nothing to do with "growing up" Everyone's situation is different and you have my respect for overcoming the obstacles you have. However, that does not give you the right to berate others who may be in similar situations.
You're so wrong. He's absolutely right. I have anxiety and it was only until I drank some concrete and hardened the **** up did I learn powerful ways to deal with my anxiety. I would faint waiting in line for a train ticket or at dentists, I would panic about sexual performance, I would bite my nails furiously upon upcoming exams, I would smoke endlessly. I got to the stage - enough was enough. I would do other things that would not only benefit myself, but reduce anxiety too: buying my train tickets online saving time and effort, I'd visit dentists for checkups every week and eventually I've had 2 fillings with no anaesthetic. I started using humour more and that side tracked my sexual anxiety, and my partner is hugely supportive of me. I file my nails now which prevents the desire to bite. I quit smoking and had teeth whitened - made me feel more attractive.
Most girls losing their virginity is somewhat painful when not properly lubricated and it would most likely still hurt. Using a sandwich bag is going to make it so much worse. Better to wait than deal with the awful pain of losing your v card while using a sandwich bag.
depending upon the age of the girl she has probably already 'experimented' with objects/toys herself. With technology the way it is today, assuming every virgin hasn't enjoyed themselves is a bit outdated. That being said the first time wouldn't hurt just because it's the first time, it could be too big, no lubrication, wrong position, etc. Honestly if she is properly prepared and care is taken there shouldn't be anything but minor discomfort at the odd sensation.
My first time didn't hurt, but I also couldn't feel anything at all. It was the most useless thing I've ever done. It wasn't until I was with someone else who was slightly bigger that it hurt. I'll admit I used some stuff around a similar size to the first guy when on my own. But lube can make the difference between it hurting and not being able to feel much, especially when you use too much lube. Sandwich bags crinkle as well, there is no way I could take someone seriously if they offered to use a sandwich bag. It's also free to get condoms here in the UK if you just go to a clinic, they always offer them.
I don't think 45 is too far off, despite trying to sound like an authority on what all girl's vaginas do (I wouldn't claim to be that either, and I have one). There are definitely steps you can take to make sure it doesn't hurt so much; make sure everyone is calm and comfortable, properly lubricated, taking it at the right pace etc. etc. Really I think it's less useful saying it's normal for it to hurt because that absolves the girl's partner of all responsibility for making sure it doesn't.
Girls have different first time experiences but it depends on size and girth of penis and the hymen if it's going to hurt as badly. I've heard of girls whose hymens were really bad and that they cried their first time even with large amounts of lubricant. It can hurt for anyone not saying everyone