Ew. I couldn't imagine kissing an ash tray mouth...and I ignorantly have before. It'll never happen again. FYL OP for trying to do something good, and then having it thrown back in your face. Hopefully you can get her to quit before she gets hooked.

who decides to start smoking??

If she just barely started, it shouldn't be too hard to convince her to quit together.

FYL. I personally don't smoke, but many of my family members do. They tell me to not smoke because it's quite addicting and that they regret ever starting. Maybe kindly ask your wife to not continue? But, I believe you can quit for good OP! :) Stay strong buddy :D

how ironic.. although i believe, that if OP's wife just started smoking that it wouldn't take much to quit; be prepared for the less-than-awesome withdrawal symptoms! :) Congradulations on kicking the habit OP.

Try and convince her to stop with you.

Are we talking cigarettes or something else? I can't imagine starting cigarette smoking out of the blue.

she did it on purpose.

I'm sorry your wife started smoking, OP. But kudos to you for making the effort to stop! Hang in there and motivate her to quit with you while she's early in the habit! Best of luck, you can do it! :)

You could talk her out of it...