By Anonymous - 10/10/2015 04:43 - Canada - Qualicum Beach

Today, desperate to meet a guy, I went clubbing. The only guy to show any interest opened with: "You're hot, for a black chick!" FML
I agree, your life sucks 26 300
You deserved it 2 710

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It's a club. They're basically a place to keep all the fuckwits away from the rest of us. That sort of thing is to be expected, really.

People are so rude.

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Did you read the whole thing?

People are so rude.

Honestly like that's not even a compliment. What's it even supposed to mean?? As if all other black girls are ugly and OP is just bearable..

Maybe it was a clumsy attempt at negging? Either way it's still 'ew'.

that's the sort of people you meet at clubs.

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Um no, that's not a real compliment. More like a "clever" "acceptable" chance to say something racist.

Why is this so downvoted

Racism is such a rare compliment these days!

If you said "YDI" please have your friends contact my friends to arrange our "meeting."

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How does she deserve it for trying to find a guy? Maybe it's not the best place but, she doesn't deserve that, asshole.

Maybe not great people but I doubt people go to clubs expecting to meet blatant racists... And if they do that's a problem that really needs to be fixed.

Usually clubs aren't known for gentlemanly behaviour...

And probably not the best place to be looking for a longterm relationship. I am by no means an expert on the subject, but I'd suggest looking for someone during various group activities you enjoy, as it's far easier to find people with similar interests, and it's just much easier to strike up a good conversation ñ_ñ

I hope you weren't desperate enough to hook up with him.

It's a club. They're basically a place to keep all the fuckwits away from the rest of us. That sort of thing is to be expected, really.

Excellent point.

What is wrong with some people. This is one of the many examples of why people of color have self image issues

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This kinda shit makes me liable to bitchslap the fuck outta somebody.

People of all races have self image issues.

25, they sure weren't when there were signs above water fountains dictating who could and who couldn't drink from them in the Jim Crow era

25, White and black aren't colors, so even taking "colored" literally, you're incorrect.

last time I checked 41, we weren't living in the Jim crow laws Era are we? And yes black and white are colors that the eye recognizes. And yes, all people can have self imagine issues, no matter the race

Technically there aren't whites and blacks, it's more pinks and browns which are both definitely colours.

Yes all people have self image issues but people of colour live in a world where Eurocentric standards of beauty are imposed on everyone. Because of this, many people of colour deal with particular issues related to self image that white people don't deal with. E.g black women are brought up to believe that our natural hair texture is dirty ugly and unprofessional and many black women have had difficulties finding jobs or have even been sent home from school because they wore their hair naturally.

I hope people realize that that's NOT a compliment and it's blatant racism. As a black girl I've come across it too many times.

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I'm guessing 30 is the guy OP met at the club....

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37, not being attracted to someone simply because of their race is, by definition, racist. Not all people belonging to a certain race act nor look the same way, so if that's the only reason for them being unattractive to you, that's racism.

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you're being thumbed down because that statistic that tour talking about isn't true. I have seen countless mixed race couples in my life and the guy wasn't saying he preferred one race over the other. he was saying that black girls are ugly to him I'm general and she is an exception.

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39, explain me how having certain preferences is racist. Am I racist because I like redheads the most? Is my friend racist because he thinks Korean girls are super cute? Is my cousin racist because Indian girls are not his type? This is like saying that I'm homophobic because I'm not sexually interested in men.

Technically it is racist. The definition of racism has nothing to do with thinking bad about other races, it is viewing one race as superior to others. And clearly if you only view one race as potential partners then you view that race as superior. Doesn't mean you have to think anything negative about other races, though.

Of course people tend to be attracted to a type. There's nothing wrong with that. That's how genetics and evolution work. The problem is that the guy who talked to OP essentially said black women are not attractive. That's not having a "preference". That's making an ignorant statement about an entire group of people. Also, who gives a shit if that guy has "preferences". Women are people, not categories for selection at a meat market (even if they go to clubs, even if they enjoy casual sex). If you have preferences, keep them to yourself. No one wants to be told that the only reason someone is talking to them is because of their perceived ethnicity, skin color, hair color, or whatever. The same holds true if you switch genders. As to what 30 said—again, that's an unprovable and ignorant statement, especially since whatever magical "statistic" he's referring to probably doesn't take into account the amount of people who don't date outside their race because of stigma. To say most white people aren't attracted to black people or vice versa is as ridiculous as saying "you're hot, for a black chick".

Hey adeptus you triggered the tumblrites lmao

I don't know whether that statistic is accurate or not (probably isn't). But in my experience, trying to find white guys willing to date black girls is hard. At my school, the white guys prefer the blonde, skinny white girls to the black girls. When you become used to being rejected by white people, it's easy to get discouraged and start dating within your own race. I'm not saying black people will always do this or exclusively date black people, but your "statistic" may not factor in the racism black people face while dating.

I'm sure many people don't date outside their race because our families are older and more judgemental and it causes problems. My grandma disowned my uncle for dating a black woman. And when my sister got married last year, I was the only one of her family to attend because her husband is black. They've been together for five years and have a child and are doing exceptionally well, but apparently people in my family from older generations can't get the hell over it.

My mum is black and my dad is white. I see COUNTLESS mixed couples who are head over heels in love with one another. IDK where your head is for thinking race has to be a border. Love breaks those borders down if it feels like.

Don't worry. That guy was clearly an asshole who doesn't deserve your attention.