By Asdf649 - 19/05/2012 04:17 - Canada - Burlington
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Dares can go both ways: 1- OP's husband was dared to ask her out as she was not appealing to him. Or 2- (more common) OP's husband was dared to ask her out as she was someone he didn't have the courage to approach. If the later is true then I think OP should thank her husband's friend for initiating such an important part of her life. And be happy that she must've been such a bomb that her husband thought he could never be with her.
That's really messed up. But obviously he liked you enough to stay and marry you. :D so no worries op.
Dares are not always negative. I was dared to ask my current gf out only because I thought she was waaaay out of my league. My friend kept pushing until they placed heavy dares and bets on it. I asked her out and she said yes. I am currently the happiest man around and I thank my friends for putting the extra courage in me....
Some relationships start out that way. You shouldn't focus on the negative though; you're obviously still together and he loves you, so that's got to count for something, right? Anyway, congratulations :)
But what's negative about that? It doesn't mean he wasn't interested in her. He could have just been too shy to approach or something without a push from his friend. Guys do that kinda thing all the time. If he didn't like you, he wouldn't have kept dating you, and sure as hell wouldn't marry you (even if it was a double dog dare).
It's not that bad, and it doesn't mean anything about your marriage. He might have start the relationship because of this, because he didn't know you but then fell in love with you. Don't think he didn't like you at all or something. I bet he just didn't know you or was to shy to ask you out. And smile, you're married now, it's too late for him to go away ;) And congratulations for the wedding, by the way !