By fine - 28/02/2015 05:22 - United States - Danvers
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What? He calls you the c word and blows off your illness? horrid. stay strong, OP.
46, depending on the state, actually he could go away for up to 5 years I believe. in many states, it's 2 years for saying that. It's considered verbal domestic abuse. It's not as serious of an offense, but still isn't nice to have on the record. It depends on the history... but him knowing OP has something that is medically wrong inclining them to negative responses towards things means he is legally more responsible for what he does and says to her.
Glad you're taking a step in the right direction and getting help, OP. Depression is a disease, and sadly some fuckheads like your step-father don't understand this.
Most people dont understand depression. As hard as it is, try to ignore him and focus on getting better. Good luck op.
So true. Unfortunately many people still think that depression and anxiety are things that one can just get over it they try. They still feel it's a mind over matter thing. Op: Even if your step father was uneducated about the realities and seriousness of depression and didn't realize that it's an actual illness, I don't understand why he would feel the need to call you such a horrible name! He sounds like a major douchebag and I would tell him off if I were you. Calmly explain to him that depression is a disease of which you have no control over even though you've tried, explain that doctors know that it's not a mind over matter thing, and then tell him it is not ok for him to talk to you like that and that you expect an apology. Tell him if he plans on having any type of relationship with you he will never call you names and treat you like that again, and that he will be supportive of you during this difficult time. If he refuses, then you know he's not worth having a relationship with and know to not allow yourself to care what he says or thinks because he's obviously just a jerk. Be nice but hold yourself at a distance.
It's how he was raised. When people had a problem, they got over it or solved it. Mental illnesses are honestly tricky. They can be caused by both chemical imbalance and just mentally draining traumatic events. Fighting depression is not just a medical thing. And that's why people are so afraid of classifying it as what it is.