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By Depressed and clueless - / Wednesday 24 October 2018 15:00 / United States - Manhattan
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By  MidnaLink  |  31

Seriously? An entire dorm… PLANNING to ostracize one person for unknown reasons. Have you asked why yet since posting this, ‘cause this is really fucking stupid if they didn’t tell you why.

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By  MidnaLink  |  31

Seriously? An entire dorm… PLANNING to ostracize one person for unknown reasons. Have you asked why yet since posting this, ‘cause this is really fucking stupid if they didn’t tell you why.

By  melisssa87  |  28

Try to look for people outside your dorm to socialise with. Those people don’t just try to isolate you but trying to convince you that you are paranoid and doubting your own mind.
I didn’t hang out with people in my dorm because don’t shit where you eat

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  notlisapizza  |  3

how tf would this be illegal? it's really shitty yeah, but what law exactly is being broken? there's no requirement for people to be friends with you or be nice to you. this is a horrible thing that the dorm is doing, but not illegal. op might be able to talk to administration about it being bullying, and would have a good case to be moved to a new dorm, but no one's getting arrested for this.

By  bassboss85  |  11

I'm sorry that's happening to you. I went through the same thing in school, and it was really hard. But a few things helped:

1) Be the friend that you wish you had. Being an RA for several years, I know the odds are pretty good that there are other people in your dorm who wish someone cared about them. If nobody is going to be there for you, then be there for someone else who is feeling the same way you are.
2) Do some self-reflection, and do everything you can to be the best person possible. The reason for this is because if you're doing this, and someone doesn't like you, it's easy to dismiss their opinions. If you can think to yourself "I would like me, if I were that person," then you're less likely to feel depressed and powerless.
3) People's opinions change all the time. Just look at those trashy shows where people are best friends one minute, then enemies the next, and then they're friends again and ganging up on someone else. If you take the high road and don't give anybody reason to dislike you, the tides usually turn.
4) Read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." It's great for introverts (like me) who aren't naturally social and sometimes need to consciously draw on tips for being liked (or how not to accidentally put someone off!)
5) You are part of a larger community of many different people. Try volunteering off-campus, where you will be valued and where you can meet other people who will appreciate what you have to offer!
6) Get revenge by focussing on your goals and by being successful. A lot of people in university don't make it past the first two years, especially if they're focussed on social drama. When they drop out and you have grades high enough to do anything you want to, you'll be glad you didn't waste your time partying with losers.

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