Today, after a week of intense fighting, my girlfriend of 4 years and I hung out. She told me she loved me, and I pointed out that last week she said she was going to dump me. Without missing a beat, she replied, "Only to scare you into submission." FML
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gracehi
| 31
I won't be popular for saying this, but dump her. Manipulating you with the threat of leaving you is not ok. My ex used to do that. He threatened to leave me every time I wouldn't do what he wanted, even with dumb shit, like refusing to buy him a beer. One day I finally said, "Fine. There's the door." He just whined that I didn't care and didn't even move from the spot where he was. He never threatened to leave me again. I suggest that next time she threatens to dump you, call her on her bluff. If she dumps you, good riddance. If not, she won't be manipulating that way again.
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SerpentBoy
| 8
Stand your ground boss, or she will want to control you forever..
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laynepuls
| 6
Did it work ?
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hama806
| 19
It sounds like it did.
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SadGirl18
| 16
Of course. At least we know who the alpha is now.
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then000bster
| 16
39 your photo looks like you could be the next over obsessive girlfriend.
When I read this fml I read it literally. Should have been a paper view week "Girlfriend Beats S*** out of Boyfriend for one week straight!!!"
When I read this fml I read it literally. Should have been a paper view week "Girlfriend Beats S*** out of Boyfriend for one week straight!!!"
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srgspartan117
| 8
Hahaha well that is yet to be determined. As far as I can tell lol
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FastidiousPear
| 6
If you're not winning at the relationship, why bother keeping it going? You need to take the power back instead of whining about it on FML.
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SerpentBoy
| 8
Stand your ground boss, or she will want to control you forever..
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chell1894
| 13
Or she'll leave him.. But maybe that'd be better. But who knows?
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379_fml
| 11
She'll want to get married? Ya control for ever
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vaxanas
| 5
run...
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skittlestrailmix
| 14
Yeah... This girl is nuts.
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pradip
| 26
Your username, a relationship of 4 years, she tells she loves you and just scared you, seems like a nice love story. Just go with it OP.
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sobe2
| 6
Sounds like a new Taylor Swift song in the making.
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nycwrestler
| 17
Too many negative votes, comment buried.
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DrunkButterfly
| 17
He shouldn't be happy if she's that manipulative!
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Canuck13
| 12
I agree with DrunkButterfly, it seems more like manipulating his feelings when it suits her needs to get her way. That's not love, not in my books anyway.
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Mf2307
| 15
how can you be happy with someone who controls you, you will have no control to make your own decision and even maybe feel like a kid.
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Tupelo_Honey
| 30
What did she need to scare you into submission for? What I mean is, what did she want you to submit TO?
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ririchan94
| 18
BDSM?
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gracehi
| 31
I won't be popular for saying this, but dump her. Manipulating you with the threat of leaving you is not ok. My ex used to do that. He threatened to leave me every time I wouldn't do what he wanted, even with dumb shit, like refusing to buy him a beer. One day I finally said, "Fine. There's the door." He just whined that I didn't care and didn't even move from the spot where he was. He never threatened to leave me again. I suggest that next time she threatens to dump you, call her on her bluff. If she dumps you, good riddance. If not, she won't be manipulating that way again.
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vencku
| 13
I understand what you say, but OP said she did this last week, not that it is a weekly occurence. When you're fighting, you might say - and mean - that you will end the relationship if things stay as they are. I find it a warning rather than manipulation if it happens once, in a specific argument.
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sugarbear0727
| 19
I agree with you on that one. My recent ex was exactly like that. In the end, he dumped me because his mother didn't like me. -.-
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gracehi
| 31
11, What you say makes sense, and I'd agree with you generally, except for in this specific situation, only because OP's girlfriend admitted that she threatened to dump him "only to frighten [him] into submission," You can bet your bottom dollar she'll do it again.
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kc1997kc
| 9
Yeah, but how long did it take for him to start telling you that? They have been together for four years. It's also possible OP was being a jerk, and she said it so he'd realize it. That would also be trying to make him submit to what she wanted. Submission isn't always a bad thing. He should break up with her if it looks like it's going to be a habit, or was for something stupid. FMLs don't have enough information for you to really know either way.
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dontpanic_fml
| 32
I'm sorry...am I fucking missing something here? Is there a reason that you still desire to be with your boyfriend?
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Connect
| 10
I agree with #9.
That shit isn't alright. Dump her.
That shit isn't alright. Dump her.
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BlowinChronic
| 18
Brah, not using the reply button. That shit isn't tight.
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baba01_fml
| 17
Tell her she wins and you submit to a threesome with her and her hawt best friend Jennifer.
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ks23
| 9
Whoa
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BlowinChronic
| 18
I like how your comment goes so in depth to help me understand what's going on in the OP's head. Just the way it was writing is phenomenal, have you ever considered writing a novel?
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Jordath_Fil
| 11
That's the title! "Whoa" by Stop There.